newmoon Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I used to be a pretty romantic dude. Then i got dumped by a fat whale and became a jerk. I feel like i can never really be that nice to another girl because the girl who dumped me wasn't even in my league, i was super sweet to her, actually loved her, and she still left. So any girl after her is just a lie. But do girls actually enjoy romance? Guys who make them candle light dinners? Rose petals on the bed? Buying them little gifts? Long walks on the beach and poems and stuff? Or do you guys really hate that? Be honest. I think that type of romance would definitely be appreciated by a gf who views those gestures as romantic, and not every woman does. if someone did that for me I would laugh because it's rather silly, so do it (don't stop!), but do it for a girl who does like it, and you'll know...
Phoe Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 My guy is romantic and I adore it. I make sure to always show my appreciation for the things he does. He knows the things he does makes me happy, but also knows I don't EXPECT romantic gestures and knows I won't be disappointed in him if things aren't romantic as he wanted. He had a big night planned for New Year's Eve. He was gonna get a hotel room, put rose petals on the bed, have food and sparkling cider ready, and was gonna present me with an emerald ring, because he wanted to start the year off with a promise of his intentions with me, a ring on my finger to symbolize his desire to spend his life with me. Well, things did not go as he planned. He got heat exhaustion at work and was vomiting and spitting up blood. He works in Nevada and by the time he got back to California I ended up taking care of him and putting him to bed around 9. He was VERY distraught, worrying about me being unhappy with how the night turned out. Afraid I was disappointed in him. Silly man. I was happy just to be by his side and just wanted to make him better. He woke up around 2 AM and felt much better, and I was just so thrilled. We ate, had sex (I was reallllly hesitant to get him worked up again but he insisted that he felt good enough and really needed it at that moment), and went back to bed. He amuses me... sometimes he acts like being romantic is psychologically paining him, haha. He says I broke him. Says he used to be a grizzly bear and then I came and bit him, turned him into a teddy bear. This bearded man, military veteran, survivalist type, gun and knife aficionado... a grizzly bear but I turned him into a purring snuggly cuddly teddy bear of a man. He acts like he hates what I've done to him, but I know he loves it. 2
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I would find it much more romantic if speaking on the phone to my bf & casually mentioned I have a sore throat and he showed up with my favorite milkshake Milkshakes are good for sore throats? Must experiment next time I get a sore throat. When in a relationship with a woman, romance and romantic gestures are appreciated, as long it is not over done, like flowers every day. But there are women that love receiving flowers everyday, so you can't gauge all of them. A simple rule is just be sincere with the romance but perform it infrequently, so when done, it comes as a surprise to the woman. When done outside a relationship, if the woman likes you, she will appreciate it. If she does not like you, don't bother. 1
ae86drift Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Not really, lot's of them like those bad boy type bad boy = broke ass loser or crack head hahahah
GemmaUK Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I love romance. But only when he has no idea it was romantic at all. If he thinks about it and performs it..well..its a performance and generally not personal to me. (even flowers = performance to me.) The best things are when he doesn't plan it, isn't attempting to win you over and he has no idea that what he did was oh so romantic. And yes, it happens. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I am a practical romantic...shovels snow to her car, cleans off windshield, goes get her gas so she won't smell like gas, details and washes her car, takes care of her horse, buys her chocolate ice cream that time of the month...that sort of thing. I bring her flowers randomly if I see something that reminds me of her..she mostly loves peach roses and sunflowers or live herb plants she can plant in her garden. I also make her maps and bring her rare books. She is very romantic....we take lots of walks and boat rides and she knows exactly what equestrian, golfing, hunting, fishing, boating and sports I am into so we go to a lot of events. I also like sweets so she bakes a lot and is the best cook in the world IMO. She loves opera, ballet, art and history so I take her on trips to see events like that. She is extremely appreciative and so am I. G 8
happydate Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 (edited) I used to be a pretty romantic dude. Then i got dumped by a fat whale and became a jerk. I feel like i can never really be that nice to another girl because the girl who dumped me wasn't even in my league, i was super sweet to her, actually loved her, and she still left. So any girl after her is just a lie. But do girls actually enjoy romance? Guys who make them candle light dinners? Rose petals on the bed? Buying them little gifts? Long walks on the beach and poems and stuff? Or do you guys really hate that? Be honest. Truthful words are not beautiful; beautiful words are not truthful. Good words are not persuasive; persuasive words are not good. You became a jerk because you realized beautiful BS romantic words aren't truthful. You spoke the truth and you became a jerk. One must realize that you can not please everyone in this world. You can only please and love yourself and if others aren't appreciative of your human qualities, then why are you wasting your energy and time in her? Tons of men waste their time saying beautiful words that are not truthful. You just got dumped because you were not yourself. When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare and compete, everybody will respect you including the great good women who will respect you and growth with you together and do things together. Edited January 6, 2014 by happydate 1
Versacehottie Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Milkshakes are good for sore throats? Must experiment next time I get a sore throat. Yes, try it! To illustrate my point as far as romance goes, if my guy did that and happened to be wrong but thought they would help, I would also love it. 1
Tayla Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Romance is subjective to the receiver and the giver. As a recipricator I find the Little things mean alot. The Guy who when at a concert loans me his jacket for the night air has gotten cooler...Or the Guy who knows I've had a rough day, just gives that hug to show support....Its low maintenance romance with a powerful message Its the daily things ....small gestures with a big heart attached. So yes as a lady I think its a wonderful ingredient in a relations.... 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Yes, try it! To illustrate my point as far as romance goes, if my guy did that and happened to be wrong but thought they would help, I would also love it. I wish more women were as forgiving as you. 1
Quiet Storm Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I think most women enjoy romance, but it must be from a man whose attention she perceives to be valuable. If the romantic gestures are done in a desperate, "I'll do anything to please you" way, it will seem annoying. Women will also be turned off to romance that seems manipulative. Be romantic because you genuinely like making her happy, not because you are trying to get something in return. I love it when my husband's romantic. 3
MissBee Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I used to be a pretty romantic dude. Then i got dumped by a fat whale and became a jerk. I feel like i can never really be that nice to another girl because the girl who dumped me wasn't even in my league, i was super sweet to her, actually loved her, and she still left. So any girl after her is just a lie. But do girls actually enjoy romance? Guys who make them candle light dinners? Rose petals on the bed? Buying them little gifts? Long walks on the beach and poems and stuff? Or do you guys really hate that? Be honest. Why were you dating a fat whale who's out of your league? How did you end up loving this whale? Or were you providing a charity service that wasn't authentic but then she broke up with you anyway so now you're angry? I enjoy romance and a man who genuinely loves me and thinks about doing nice things for me. I would not want to be with a fake romantic man who thought he was above me and who thinks I am whale and is nice and "romantic" because he expects me to be grateful for his attention so that I stay with him forever...eff that! 1
ponchsox Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Yes, but men have different views on what is "romantic." To me, there is a time and a place for being romantic and is best when spontaneous and unplanned. I think some guys go overboard and it actually can turn women off. 1
MissBee Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I used to be a pretty romantic dude. Then i got dumped by a fat whale and became a jerk. I feel like i can never really be that nice to another girl because the girl who dumped me wasn't even in my league, i was super sweet to her, actually loved her, and she still left. So any girl after her is just a lie. But do girls actually enjoy romance? Guys who make them candle light dinners? Rose petals on the bed? Buying them little gifts? Long walks on the beach and poems and stuff? Or do you guys really hate that? Be honest. Why were you dating a fat whale who's out of your league? How did you end up loving this whale? Or were you providing a charity service that wasn't authentic but then she broke up with you anyway so now you're angry? I enjoy romance and a man who genuinely loves me and thinks about doing nice things for me. I would not want to be with a fake romantic man who thought he was above me and who thinks I am whale and is nice and "romantic" because he expects me to be grateful for his attention so that I stay with him forever. That's manipulative and this woman could probably tell that it was something like that so broke it off.
OpheliaSong Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I feel like women would swear on the bible they want a nice, sweet, thoughtful, romantic man,.. but in reality this type of behavior comes off as a weakness and they dump you. I have never dated a bad boy and like a nice guy. I am sappy romantic and treat my bfs very well. I think game playing and treating me like I am low on his list of priorities is weakness, not niceness. I dump them when they become jerks and act not nice.
Versacehottie Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I wish more women were as forgiving as you. LOL, it's the effort more than the result A romantic gesture is kind of a bonus the way I see it. Once a girl is demanding or expecting it or a guy is obligated or forced to give it, it completely loses its meaning. Gifts of the heart.
Antenna_Of_Destiny Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 A long time ago...in a galaxy far away I was a "hopeless romantic". I was the kind of guy who would write girls intricate poems and draw pictures with calligraphy ink with boxes of chocolates/candy and flowers. It never got me anywhere. Now I am on a different path, after nearly a decade of personal transformation and self improvement, I unapologetically take whatever I want in life.
Imported Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) Yes they do. Edited January 7, 2014 by Imported
Els Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I am a practical romantic...shovels snow to her car, cleans off windshield, goes get her gas so she won't smell like gas, details and washes her car, takes care of her horse, buys her chocolate ice cream that time of the month...that sort of thing. Sounds exactly like my guy! :love: 1
MissBee Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I am a practical romantic...shovels snow to her car, cleans off windshield, goes get her gas so she won't smell like gas, details and washes her car, takes care of her horse, buys her chocolate ice cream that time of the month...that sort of thing. I bring her flowers randomly if I see something that reminds me of her..she mostly loves peach roses and sunflowers or live herb plants she can plant in her garden. I also make her maps and bring her rare books. She is very romantic....we take lots of walks and boat rides and she knows exactly what equestrian, golfing, hunting, fishing, boating and sports I am into so we go to a lot of events. I also like sweets so she bakes a lot and is the best cook in the world IMO. She loves opera, ballet, art and history so I take her on trips to see events like that. She is extremely appreciative and so am I. G THE BEST! 2
RedRobin Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I am a practical romantic...shovels snow to her car, cleans off windshield, goes get her gas so she won't smell like gas, details and washes her car, takes care of her horse, buys her chocolate ice cream that time of the month...that sort of thing. I bring her flowers randomly if I see something that reminds me of her..she mostly loves peach roses and sunflowers or live herb plants she can plant in her garden. I also make her maps and bring her rare books. She is very romantic....we take lots of walks and boat rides and she knows exactly what equestrian, golfing, hunting, fishing, boating and sports I am into so we go to a lot of events. I also like sweets so she bakes a lot and is the best cook in the world IMO. She loves opera, ballet, art and history so I take her on trips to see events like that. She is extremely appreciative and so am I. G You don't count. You are married lol (I'm kidding of course). My dad seems a lot like you. He shows his love through actions, not so much with words and flowery displays. (I'm a lot like him). It all started when he sold his Corvair to buy my mom's wedding ring. 2
emva07 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) depends if she's into him or not. although I must say, it is human nature to take advantage when we are over-pampered. I've seen it happen many times. Edited January 7, 2014 by emva07
Author AntiSocal Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Why were you dating a fat whale who's out of your league? How did you end up loving this whale? Or were you providing a charity service that wasn't authentic but then she broke up with you anyway so now you're angry? I enjoy romance and a man who genuinely loves me and thinks about doing nice things for me. I would not want to be with a fake romantic man who thought he was above me and who thinks I am whale and is nice and "romantic" because he expects me to be grateful for his attention so that I stay with him forever...eff that! Lol. As others have stated i obviously would not call her a whale to her face. Putting her down because she cheated on me. And i was still mad about it when i wrote the original post tbh. And i dated the fat whale because i'm not extremely shallow. Or at least i didn't used to be. I thought she was really pretty and i got over the fact that she was overweight fairly quickly. You know when you meet someone and you aren't attracted? Then you get to know them and they're suddenly hot to you? Was like that. As far as her being out of my league goes she was. I personally don't believe in leagues. But if anyone saw us walking down the street together they would think I could do much better.
Got it Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I used to be a pretty romantic dude. Then i got dumped by a fat whale and became a jerk. I feel like i can never really be that nice to another girl because the girl who dumped me wasn't even in my league, i was super sweet to her, actually loved her, and she still left. So any girl after her is just a lie. But do girls actually enjoy romance? Guys who make them candle light dinners? Rose petals on the bed? Buying them little gifts? Long walks on the beach and poems and stuff? Or do you guys really hate that? Be honest. Wow. . . have you tried therapy? I am sincerely asking that. Because of one bad encounter causing a broad brush response is something that I would work through with a professional.
Author AntiSocal Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Wow. . . have you tried therapy? I am sincerely asking that. Because of one bad encounter causing a broad brush response is something that I would work through with a professional. Honestly? Scared of what the therapist might tell me about myself. Don't really put too much weight into all that jazz anyway. Going by text book definitions almost everyone is at least a little narcissistic and psycho. And that breakup was really horrible. Really changed my whole outlook on life/woman. Starting to feel better now though
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