winny Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I think your observation is correct.. He has baggage that I'm trying to figure out if I want to deal with it but since we seem to really hit it off intellectually/physically I don't want to bail just yet.. I guess when we see each other again that might give me better info about either telling him about seeing others or ending it or worse case I'm as confused as ever!! Don't be so confused.... Evaluate him for some more time... how he treats you, how much time he makes for you, how special you feel with him... give it bit more time... don't jump to conclusions... Time will clear all your confusions... Keep an open mind and don't worry a lot... 1
Phantom888 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Multi-dating is not a bad thing unless you are sleeping with multiple partners and deceiving them. A few people don't mind the non-exclusive sleeping around, but that's just shallow, and if you are not into that, you should not be involved with someone who is. You should confirm exclusivity before you sleep with someone, so that you are not in a position to wonder or worry about STDs or getting caught off guard. As stated above, multi-dating is a good way to get to know people. But once you start sleeping with a partner, then multi-dating becomes a strategy (reason) to leave your current partner. It's basically cheating in a sugar-coated form. 1
Author Ok Good Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 I tell all my female friends this; next time, don't be so quick to go to bed with him. yes, I totally get how sex can complicate things quickly i wasn't pressured into anything and went forward physically willingly cos it'd been awhile and we had sparks from the moment we met But I have to learn better self control!!
Author Ok Good Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Multi-dating is not a bad thing unless you are sleeping with multiple partners and deceiving them. A few people don't mind the non-exclusive sleeping around, but that's just shallow, and if you are not into that, you should not be involved with someone who is. You should confirm exclusivity before you sleep with someone, so that you are not in a position to wonder or worry about STDs or getting caught off guard. As stated above, multi-dating is a good way to get to know people. But once you start sleeping with a partner, then multi-dating becomes a strategy (reason) to leave your current partner. It's basically cheating in a sugar-coated form. this ^ puts it perfectly into perspective, thank you! 1
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