newday4me Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Any thoughts on why people do this? I find this disturbing, cruel and unnecessary.
whichwayisup Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Don't try to figure out those who are nasty and cruel. It says more about them and how f'ked up they are. Toxic people have deep issues and are too weak to change or try to fix themselves....OR they are a narcissistic/sociopaths. Best to RUN away from someone like that!
carhill Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Lying to someone about loving them Any thoughts on why people do this? I find this disturbing, cruel and unnecessary. Such efforts, if performed skillfully, can extract a good ROI on nothing more than words. Historically, IME, those most skilled in facilitating letting others love them are the best at this. So, if I were to describe what 'ROI' (return on investment) is, it could be attention, it could be loyalty, it could be intimacy, it could be generosity, it could be companionship. It could be marriage. After enough experience, I can now envision the process a lot like a series of stepping stones throughout life, lubricated by words and favorably received but generally vacuous social platitudes, gaining for oneself at the expense of others. Taking. It's what some people do. Part of life. Good luck.
furby19 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 People do it all the time. Some people have low morals. They will tell you they love you to keep you around. They may want to keep you around for money, sex, companionships, etc. That is why it is a good practice to take a person's actions more seriously than what they say.
soccerrprp Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I agree with furby19. Also, some people, for better or for worse, genuinely feel that they do love at the time only to discover that it wasn't. Did they lie? Not certain, but it certainly feels that way to the recipient of those words and who is later cast aside. 1
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