winny Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Hello Friends, With help from the members of this site and some of my own... I finally went on a date this weekend. We met up for coffee... the guy was nice... we talked a lot... We had texted a few times before meeting... and he didn't try to touch me or kiss me during/after the date. At the end of the date he asked me to let him know when I would like to see him again. Later on he texted me saying I looked very beautiful and he had a phenomenal time and is looking forward to having many such conversations in future. I am interested in seeing him again and I think he was cute... and I think I will like to kiss him too... But I did not have any butterflies in my stomach, nor I wait for his texts or miss him or anything. I don't know whether this is a good sign or bad sign. Am still hurt and scared about what happened last time. But I want to evaluate this guy and anyone else I meet... on all the parameters I have gathered from all of you and then decide if I like them or not. This is completely different from what I have done till now... I used to first fall for someone and then... just couldn't see straight anymore.. LOL.. I guess this is a progress... 3
Uwaae Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 The hot and heavy stuff never works out, the slow burn always seems to be the good stuff. Get to know the guy. One advice I think you should take from me: Dont be in your head so much thinking, about things that havent even happened. Go along and have fun instead
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 The hot and heavy stuff never works out, the slow burn always seems to be the good stuff. Get to know the guy. One advice I think you should take from me: Dont be in your head so much thinking, about things that havent even happened. Go along and have fun instead Thanks.. I will remember this
CrystalCastles Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Certainly sounds very promising! The fact that he's not getting physical right away is also a very good sign. I would not dismiss this guy simply because butterflies are not there (yet). If you enjoyed your time with him, please meet up again! He sounds like a very sweet guy. It sounds like you were hurt before and so you're being cautious. Cautious is very good. Don't analyze too much, but don't stupidly launch into this head first. You sound like you've got a nice balance going. Absolutely keep seeing him and keep us updated!
StumpyNB Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 The hot and heavy stuff never works out, the slow burn always seems to be the good stuff. Get to know the guy. One advice I think you should take from me: Dont be in your head so much thinking, about things that havent even happened. Go along and have fun instead I'm going to be a dissenting opinion on this. I think it can absolutely work out. Don't go into everything with preconcieved notions and rules. I've been dating a great girl for a year this month. Things started very hot and heavy with her. Neither of us thought it would be more than a fling for a variety of reasons. As it turns out though we click very well together, and we are still together. I don't think the pace matters as long as the gears mesh up.
TylerDurdenn Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Sounds like a decent guy, give him a chance.
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Sounds like a decent guy, give him a chance. I have told him I would like to meet this week n he said he will let me know. So the ball's in his court now
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 winny, It sounds like an excellent weekend. The fact you both had a very good time together is enough to squash any need for butterflies. He sounds like a gent and such a breed is rare - definitely worth progressing to see how it goes (noting you mention you would like to see him again). You both expressed the interest and it is with him for his availability - keep the forum posted
Author winny Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Well... got a text from him... Basically it went something like this - You are amazing but I don't know what I want right now. I need to figure out. So I am very sorry. Moving on... LOL 1
tlegend Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Well... got a text from him... Basically it went something like this - You are amazing but I don't know what I want right now. I need to figure out. So I am very sorry. Moving on... LOL 3billion+ left to interview! 2
pteromom Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Well... got a text from him... Basically it went something like this - You are amazing but I don't know what I want right now. I need to figure out. So I am very sorry. Moving on... LOL At least he was honest. So that's good. What I was going to say before I saw your latest post was to worry less about butterflies and wanting to kiss, and more about figuring out who he is as a person and if his values and goals and personality fit with yours. Sorry it didn't work out, but I am glad you had a nice date.
Author winny Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 3billion+ left to interview! ROTFL :laugh:
Author winny Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 At least he was honest. So that's good. What I was going to say before I saw your latest post was to worry less about butterflies and wanting to kiss, and more about figuring out who he is as a person and if his values and goals and personality fit with yours. Sorry it didn't work out, but I am glad you had a nice date. Thanks And I agree to your points above...
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