stillafool Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Where did it say she was dancing up on other men? Unless it's slow dancing I don't see a problem with dancing with other guys. I was never the type to get jealous if my bf went out with the guys, or even danced with other girls. I would never even ask them if they did because it is only a dance and I didn't want to know. I just think it's silly to expect a 21 year old girl not to live a 21 year olds life. I'm sorry but anyone this insecure shouldn't be dating.
ThatMan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Where did it say she was dancing up on other men? Unless it's slow dancing I don't see a problem with dancing with other guys. I was never the type to get jealous if my bf went out with the guys, or even danced with other girls. I would never even ask them if they did because it is only a dance and I didn't want to know. I just think it's silly to expect a 21 year old girl not to live a 21 year olds life. I'm sorry but anyone this insecure shouldn't be dating. Okay. It isn't insecure to know what you want out of a relationship and you should probably get over yourself. There are some couples out there who are perfectly content with clubbing nights. But to me, I enjoy clubbing while single. There's nothing wrong with a twenty-one year old woman who wants to be an adult and make her own decisions to have fun. She can have fun and maybe I could join her one night, but I would want that in a relationship as far as I'm concerned. She can just continue having fun while single, or find somebody else more compatible to date who is okay with her behavior. The discussion is about figuring out your own compatibility, right?
Zahara Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Where did it say she was dancing up on other men? Unless it's slow dancing I don't see a problem with dancing with other guys. I was never the type to get jealous if my bf went out with the guys, or even danced with other girls. I would never even ask them if they did because it is only a dance and I didn't want to know. I just think it's silly to expect a 21 year old girl not to live a 21 year olds life. I'm sorry but anyone this insecure shouldn't be dating. She should certainly live the life of a 21 year old. But there's a difference between being a single 21 year old and a 21 year old in a committed relationship. I believe there are certain boundaries that have to be upheld when you take on the responsibility of being in a relationship with another. It has nothing to do with insecurity but moreso a compatibility issue. If you and your boyfriend didn't care whether each of you were dancing at bars with the opposite sex, then you both were compatible within the boundaries of your relationship. But if one partner desires or defines commitment, respect and boundaries that conflicts with the other, then it most likely becomes a compatibily issue rather than an issue of insecurity.
ae86drift Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Well if I were you just go with her, If she kept hanging out with her gf going clubbing then you going to lose her over those Loser guy at the bar sooner or later, maybe a one night stand.
ASG Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 1.) It demonstrates a separation between a woman's true desires and her BF/husband. It demonstrates camaraderie with women coming before loyalty to her man. You would never tolerate a "guy's night out" involving them dancing with other girls. Women barely tolerate guy's nights out at all, even when it's 100% guys going to a guy's house to do guy stuff. 2.) There's a reason you don't want BFs present, otherwise they wouldn't be excluded. Where do you go? Miniature golfing? Movie theater? Restaurant? No. More likely you go to a club, to have flirtatious encounters with other men, such as the OP's GF does. Again - people corrupted by feminism will never understand how destructive the behavior is. You're so far off the map you can't even see the edge. Most of my girls nights are at home, with my friends. We drink, we gossip, we bond. The reason to exclude the BFs is to talk about things you probably wouldn't when they're around. Like how your sex life is going! Is that really so hard to understand??? Why does it have to meant that I want to cheat?!? It doesn't! It means I want to talk about him, to my friends! And they'll do the same! The same could be asked of men. Why would you want to go on a boys night out?? Why would you exclude GFs if it was all above board? Your argument just makes no sense and crumbles under logic.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Most of my girls nights are at home, with my friends. We drink, we gossip, we bond. That would be a girls' night in. Personally I almost never hang out with all guys. I base anything on shared interests. You've also missed the point about what it often means when women have a habit of being in these girl groups. Maybe it would be better if I explained it this way. I personally know quite a few "damaged" women. Whether it comes from sexual abuse, lack of paternal bonding, feminism, etc. And these women LOVE to hang out with only the girls. They LOVE calling for girls' nights out. Almost all of them can't keep a relationship going, many distrust men and some even hate men. Conversely, the women I know who can relate to men, who can keep relationships going (or when they fail it's because the guy cheated or something of that nature) don't generally have much interest in girls' nights out. They often will go along with them, but never really call for them. Believe what you want. I've seen this dynamic too much to dismiss it. 1
Sand Man Dan Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Shes being selfish. She shouldn't be in a relationship if she wants to party like a single girl. She doesn't have to disrespect him by dancing on other men. OP DUMP HER. She will NOT change, and will stray anyways. Shes not gf material. Leave now. You were warned. In case you didn't see this OP. Kaylan on point here.
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