SexiiPinkLadii Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 My longterm boyfriend/fiance/baby's father of 5 years (on & off, but never longer than a month) and I are THRU. I don't really want to go into all the ugly details...let's just say that last night something happened that changed my whole outlook on life and now I'm wiser. I would appreciate any advice anyone has on staying strong. I do NOT want to ever be with him again and everytime something has happened, I always cave in and take him back. Please help!
uriel Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Get a really good picture in your mind of who you are and what you deserve. Remember that every time you've gone back to him, you've betrayed yourself and settled for less. Ask yourself if your own child was going through this someday in the future, what you would tell him or her about getting back together with that kind of person, history as it is. I've found those strategies have worked for me. I know I would never want my own child to go through what I have for love. And, when I think about it this way, I find I'm able to love myself into better choices. Good luck -- uriel
alphamale Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 you have a kid with this dude...how are u gonna get rid of him. you should pack yer bags and kid and move to a far away city/state.
SilentPrayer Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 REMEMBER! That you child is not in this arguement or stiffle between you and your ex BF. This child is still innocent and deserves a fair chance at a somewhat...."normal" family. It is a hard thing to go through ( The kid could be better off without him there ) or ( The kid could be missing out on something BIG and blame you later for the split ). I personally blamed my mother for the split with my dad. I still havent worked it out with her yet. I suggest that you HOLD strong. Be the women you were before you met him. Act hard even though you know inside is softer then snow. I know my words would mean more if I could say them to you in person. Be that women...that a man...cant stand upto unless he is " A grown up man". Youre views on who suits you will change. Dont let an on and off again man be the man to make and break your heart once a month. Remember your kid...and how he or she's little mind works. Its not easy being a kid..ya know. Fill those days with love and laughter..and most of all...TIME for you and your kid. I know for a fact getting lost in playland with a little one is a great get away lol
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