Hoosfoos Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It's pretty safe to assume that she's not coming back. Rationally I know this. This doesn't make it any easier though. I keep telling myself "There's no one else out there who would do these things with me again..." Her beautifully singing some of our obscure and favourite songs that I played on the guitar The nicknames that we made for each other over time The silly role playing we did with each other based on the persona of our nicknames Our fun and silly pretend vocabulary we would make up Mutual taste in music, culture, film, etc Her quick wit and intelligence The cooking collaborations we did together much more..... I know I'm idealizing...she's not perfect and there was a lot of s hit and conflict between us and ultimately I could not keep up with her drive, and I was having personal issues of my own outside of the relationship. But God do I miss those moments....so unique to the two of us, and the fact that they're gone forever just kills me inside. No one else will ever be able to replicate those moments between us. Down the road, how can I even think of being with someone else? 1
Author Hoosfoos Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 ...and how was it so easy for her to walk away from those moments? 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Nice moments, we all have our own different ones with our ex's. You'll create new ones with someone else, who know's what your future holds. 2
iworthmore Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 she did the break up. dumpers r prepared for the time post BU. they dont just do it they think abt it weeks b4 initiating it. thats why its easier for her to forget. she already had her decision. she didn't forget those memories but she already made up her mind. hold on mate, ull share better memories with new love. time will make u forget 2 best wishes
firefly2613 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I know what you mean. I often wonder about the same things myself. I find it helps me to think about the girl I will eventually end up with. What she's doing. What she looks like. No, you won't have those memories like that with anyone else, but you WILL have better ones.
notthathard Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Although you know she isn't coming back you haven't really accepted the break up. This will take time. Once you get back into the real world things will fall into place. Sure, no two relationships are the same. Things you experienced with her wont be the same with another women. BUT once you find another women you will feel so much better, you will develop a whole different list to the ones above. The main thing is identifying why you broke up and fix just that for your future relationships. 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Those are the thoughts that make me feel like my heart is absolutely full of bits of glass and EVERY breath cuts and shreds it even more. Then on top of that, the feeling of being sucker punched and wanting to throw up is almost unbearable! I swear to God, it gets better with hardcore NC!! It takes a lot of time but it works. I'm so sorry for your pain!!! It's so weird isn't it?!?! I couldn't understand for weeks how he could just walk away from all these memories. . . . But he did. I have no choice but to accept it and move on. It slowly. . . and I mean SLOWLY, so slowly you won't even notice at first. . . gets better. You just have to hold on and ride it out. Be strong my friend! You can do this and you will come out on the other side. ((hugs!!)) 1
mantlefan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 ...and how was it so easy for her to walk away from those moments? It's awesome stuff like this, stuff that really gives perspective, that makes me wish so much I would have come here sooner. I don't say that to wallow in my regret, but so that anyone here who is thinking about begging their ex to come back, sending gifts, whatever, knows that it's NOT WORTH IT. They dumped you. It's OK to hurt, OK to cry, OK to come here and vent. It does NO ONE any good to beg and plead and scheme and change yourself just for them. Take it from a guy who really screwed all that up. 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I remember when I was a little girl asking my dad. . . "Is a year a long time?" He said "If you're sitting on a hot stove, yes! . . . If you have a year to live? No!" I keep thinking if that. I guess we are sitting on the stove right now. A year, even a few months seems like a friggin eternity!!! But really in the span of our lives, it's not so long. It just seems that way. In a few months (I know, seems like forever!!!) we will be off this damn stove and the months will once again fly by when we are happy and content again. You WILL be happy again!! I promise!! 1
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