AC/DC1 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 My ex broke up with me a few years ago after 2 year relationship. I hadant seem her for a few years as she moved away, she has recently come back and we started having fun seeing each other again. However my jealousy issues kicked in and again, I pushed her away. She has now said we should just be friends. I want to be back with her, and I know that I need to get over my jealous issues and try have fun, see people etc. Although my goal is to win her back. If I become her friend will this mean ive just been friend zoned and ruin my future chances? I want to be in her life, but not just as a friend. I somehow need to show her that I am the man she fell in love with all those years ago. We are also a very close group with mutual friends, so NC would mean I have to not go out with my friends. We use to text all the time but now she does not contact me anymore, and she has been seeing other people.
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 After a romantic relationship with somebody, you can't go back to being just friends. It will make you nuts because you want more. You can't sit on the sidelines & watch her date new people. You need to find ways to move forward without her.
Author AC/DC1 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 I know that its important she is chasing you, but in order to do that I need to make things less awkward in our group?
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I know that its important she is chasing you, but in order to do that I need to make things less awkward in our group? How can she chase you if you are right there by her?
CelticGibson Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Once the dreaded F word is dropped, you are permanently in the Friendzone unless you walk away. If this situation is ever going to change, you have to allow it to happen all by itself. In the meantime, it's time for you to let go and start moving on. By your actions of moving on, making your life better, having more friends and dating others, you will show a new level of worth in her eyes that may sway her interest again. The best part? By the time you are successful in these areas, you may not actually want her back...
carhill Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If I become her friend will this mean ive just been friend zoned and ruin my future chances? Choosing platonic friendship is simply a choice. There's no zone involved. No chances ruined because they don't exist. People don't approach their platonic friends sexually. Try it on your best male friend and see how it goes. That's who she is now, except with breasts. We are also a very close group with mutual friends, so NC would mean I have to not go out with my friends. You can still go out with your friends, as she will be one of them. We use to text all the time but now she does not contact me anymore, and she has been seeing other people. Again, place that image of your best male friend into this scenario. That's a platonic friend. Do you text him all the time? What's the content? Do you care if he's seeing other people? Life throws things at you. You *choose* how you process them. Good luck.
Author AC/DC1 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 If a platonic relationship is by choice, whats the alternative?
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