reddragon588 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I took a step back on New Years Eve. I drank way too much and ended up making a fool of myself... I was around some friends that are also friends with my ex and ended up arguing with them about it... also got in a fight with another friend who isn't friends with my ex that ended up giving me a concussion... The drinking issue regardless (I know that I need to not drink as much, and I'm dealing with that separately from this thread), I feel like I took a big step back by angering some friends, and also I've been obsessing over my ex since then and can't seem to shake it. I'd been making some great progress and hadn't been really even thinking about my ex before this and now I've been unable to stop thinking about her and keep checking her social media (which is somewhat pointless since I deleted/blocked her a long time ago)... I'm not sure why all of a sudden I took this step back... is it because I'm feeling vulnerable after making such a big mistake?
barky2 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I did a lot of the same stuff, random bar fights, having to be carried out of bars, passing out on couches mid party..you know making a jerk off out of yourself. Kinda is what it is. After awhile I just kinda took it easy a bit. Still drank, just didn't go as hard as I was going before. Just my two pennies, making a ass out of yourself, and your ex, are directly tied together. When you think about you making a ass out of yourself, your ex pops in your mind. We all look like idiots some times, don't be so hard on yourself. If there's a apology that's deserved for the people you were with, do it. Once you get over the making yourself look like a ass, you'll get over this hump of thinking about her. If you reach out Ull feel million times worse, so please don't do that Barky 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 You know the drill. Forward then back. Up then down. Just when things seem to be going well, it all turns around. As far as NY. Can you make amends with your friends? Apologize and let them know it won't happen again. And, although not an excuse, it simply must be the stress of your life lately. And a little too much hooch 3
Author reddragon588 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 If there's a apology that's deserved for the people you were with, do it. I did apologize to those that I argued/fought with, and they did give their forgiveness... sometimes I think the hardest person to get forgiveness from is yourself!
Haydn Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Its happens Red. happened to me on more than one occasion. Friends will forgive this outburst and move on with you. Just apologise. Just moderate the booze (You know and i know what happens when we imbibe a bit too much, yes we start to think). You are strong Red and i follow your lead when i am feeling so down. You reached out to Vin and others personally (And me) We are grateful for this RED. As for social media, well its a real bastard isn`t it? But its here and the best thing is to try try try try not. Misery etc....PM if you want friend. Or post. Take care of you. Haydn I took a step back on New Years Eve. I drank way too much and ended up making a fool of myself... I was around some friends that are also friends with my ex and ended up arguing with them about it... also got in a fight with another friend who isn't friends with my ex that ended up giving me a concussion... The drinking issue regardless (I know that I need to not drink as much, and I'm dealing with that separately from this thread), I feel like I took a big step back by angering some friends, and also I've been obsessing over my ex since then and can't seem to shake it. I'd been making some great progress and hadn't been really even thinking about my ex before this and now I've been unable to stop thinking about her and keep checking her social media (which is somewhat pointless since I deleted/blocked her a long time ago)... I'm not sure why all of a sudden I took this step back... is it because I'm feeling vulnerable after making such a big mistake? 2
Mondmellonw Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Same thing happened to me, and I'm a girl. I didn't got drunk or got into bar fights, haha. But had a lot of trouble with friends (mutual friends) after the break up, and during the next first month after it. It sucked and made me feel like I sucked too, but everything is finally taking it's place, so... Don't be too harsh on yourself. Everything will pass. 3
JDPT Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Drinking certainly exacerbates our mental state, we just don't get it, and I'll speak for myself on that one. I too ended up drinking a bit too much last night, however, didn't contact but did resource thoughts and the feeling of "missing" her. Truth is there is not right way to do this. We all have our ups and downs. Indulge in the ups and learn from your downs. You've come a long way believe it or not. Compare yourself to the person you were when you were initially broken up to now. Be strong and continue to propel yourself forward. Don't focus on what occurred, simply learn from it and continue to heal. 2
barky2 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 You have to forgive yourself red to get past the hump of thinking of her. It's ok, really is it. It's truly not a big deal. Take a day,come to terms with it, swallow it, and proceed on. Only thing you can do. You'll be just fine. Barky 2
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