Jon10 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Hi guys, I posted here before Christmas about my ex-girlfriend breaking up with me just as we had planned to do things together and then her being unable to tell me the reason for ending things. Shes 28 and I'm 33. Well between Xmas and new years we chatted briefly online and she said she felt really bad about the way she treated me and never wanted to talk about certain things but went on to say the honest truth is that she is manic bipolar and is rapidly self destructive. She said she took a turn for the worse and attempted some very stupid things at home and her mum had to take her back to hospital. Once this happened she said she had to end it with me saying she would only end up hurting me if she didn't. Finally she said she would never have got involved with me had she known her problems were going to return. She also posted up new pics of herself and a new guy on facebook who she said she met after coming out of hospital. This was about a month after we split. I don't really know what to believe since I knew nothing about manic bipolar and it was the last thing i expected her to tell me and it took her over a month after the break-up to tell me this. If she has bipolar then she did a very good job of hiding it from me for 5 months. I never did get to see her in her own home environment as she always came to stay with me at my house or we would meet up to do things. I felt hurt that she couldn't tell me at some point over the 5 months about her condition and if she was so concerned about hurting me then she didn't have a problem jumping into a relationship with a new guy shortly after. I do know she spent time in hospital just before we met for numerous blood tests and other tests before being told everything was clear. A few weeks before we split she told me she took sick at home and the doctor had to come to her house to give her an injection and i hadn't heard from her for 2 days she told me she was sleeping right through for 2 to 3 days. Anyone have any experience with a bipolar ex and is it normal for them to just shut things off after initiating so much affection/plan things and then just get with a new person?
Juha Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 She may have those issues but if she is posting pictures on fb of her and a new guy I call BULLSHEET! Do yourself a favor and have nothing to do with this person anymore. If she is so concerned about hurting you because of her issues then it's ok to hurt some other guy? Come on dude. Don't buy her bull. It's just her trying to make herself feel better about getting rid of you. At least that's what I gather from what you posted.
deathandtaxes Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Take a hard pass. It's over, regardless of the reasons. Do yourself a favor and go NC.
legion113 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 She may have those issues but if she is posting pictures on fb of her and a new guy I call BULLSHEET! Do yourself a favor and have nothing to do with this person anymore. If she is so concerned about hurting you because of her issues then it's ok to hurt some other guy? Come on dude. Don't buy her bull. It's just her trying to make herself feel better about getting rid of you. At least that's what I gather from what you posted. Yep, she's full of crap. You dodged a cannonball with this one, if she's really bipolar, you got lucky(she may really have it but it's not that big a deal in her life as she makes it out to be, or she wouldn't have hooked up in a month), if she's not then she's a liar, you got even luckier.
2fargone Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 She may very well have these issues. Yet she is hiding behind them instead of accepting them. It's 'normal' in this situation I guess. She can tell you now, because it has no 'consequences'. You can't leave her for it, she already left.
haggard969 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 all women are bipolar , end of question, its called primordial under devolopment 1
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 all women are bipolar , end of question, its called primordial under devolopment Oh my God, seriously... OP, your ex needs to make the decision to come back to you. She's handled things the way she feels she needs to, it may or may not be what you want, but you must accept it.
Tayla Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Her decision and action to enter another relationship is a side effect of this condition. Once they perceive themselves to "feeling in control again", they try to assume a normal avenue of social relationships. Most evolved counselors deter this as they are in their manic stage, where all is rosy. Its a true medical diagnosis and I highly doubt she is "cured" to the level of functioning in a stable and healthy relations. Wish her well in her journey to recovery and run as far away from her as possible. Bi polar takes years of medicinal balancing and counseling to adjust. I have a co worker who is ten years into his diagnosis and he still can be checked on a calandar when his phases leap from one stage to the next...its bizarre. Yet its less prevalent with his meds in tact.....
bubbaganoosh Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 A few weeks before we split she told me she took sick at home and the doctor had to come to her house to give her an injection and i hadn't heard from her for 2 days she told me she was sleeping right through for 2 to 3 days. Don't know where your from but what really stinks is this. I'm 66 years old and doctors stopped making house call a long time ago. Long time. She may have got an injection but it wasn't from a doctor. And it's funny that she's so sick and breaks up with you with no reason and now she all better and proved it by sending you a picture of her and her new boyfriend. I wouldn't do this but if you want to, text her and let her know that it would be nice if she took a little more time to think up a better story than the one she told you.
Juha Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Her decision and action to enter another relationship is a side effect of this condition. Once they perceive themselves to "feeling in control again", they try to assume a normal avenue of social relationships. Most evolved counselors deter this as they are in their manic stage, where all is rosy. Its a true medical diagnosis and I highly doubt she is "cured" to the level of functioning in a stable and healthy relations. Wish her well in her journey to recovery and run as far away from her as possible. Bi polar takes years of medicinal balancing and counseling to adjust. I have a co worker who is ten years into his diagnosis and he still can be checked on a calandar when his phases leap from one stage to the next...its bizarre. Yet its less prevalent with his meds in tact..... If this is true then why does she not go back to who she was with? Don't really understand this at all.
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