Stealth3 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for a little over a month now and we had a good time, everything has been going pretty good. Lot of texting and talking. Recently she started getting more cold and now she completely ignores me. It started ever since I asked her where she wants to take this and after telling her we should focus on eachother and not date around. I told her that because she has been lurking dating sites still. I told her I like her and she just stood there and didn't say anything. Then she said we should start out as friends and that she's not ready to be in a relationship like her last one. After that I was gone on vacation and when I came back, she couldnt give me a ride from the airport. Then pretty much she stopped responding. What should I do?
Joaquin Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Go find a new girl. This one is gone. And with the next one, let her set the pace of the relationship and be the one to say what she wants first. Keep busy. 4
soccerrprp Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 What should I do? Move on. You were good enough for her to stop dating other guys. 1
furby19 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 These are signs that she is not really into you. Sorry, it happens to the best of us. Move on and use this as a lesson.
soccerrprp Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Move on. You were good enough for her to stop dating other guys. CRAP meant "weren't."
somedude81 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 And with the next one, let her set the pace of the relationship and be the one to say what she wants first. That is probably one of the most important pieces of advice in dating. Don't be the one to ask where it's going. Don't be the one to ask things to be exclusive. Don't be the one to say "I love you" first. A woman needs to feel that she likes you more than you like her otherwise she can suddenly leave as what happened to Stealth3.
soccerrprp Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 That is probably one of the most important pieces of advice in dating. Don't be the one to ask where it's going. Don't be the one to ask things to be exclusive. Don't be the one to say "I love you" first. A woman needs to feel that she likes you more than you like her otherwise she can suddenly leave as what happened to Stealth3. I don't agree with this in its absolute... The same could be and is often applied to the opposite sex. My girlfriend recently asked me to define our relationship and where it was going. We both agreed to be exclusive and I was the one to tell her that I loved her as I did with my late wife. In fact, there much to suggest that the woman should wait for the man to say "I love you" first. BOTH (EITHER) should be responsible enough to inquire as to where the relationship is going. BOTH (EITHER) should be responsible enough to seek exclusivity and (admitted bias) the woman should wait for the guy to say I love you first or simply be yourself and say it when you feel it and let the chips fall as they may. OP, you didn't do anything WRONG. She just wasn't into you.
ponchsox Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 You should move on. She's saying silently she's not into you. Find someone that is.
Author Stealth3 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Well, she did ignore me a few times before, but she would always get back to me the next day. And she's been on the dating website since I met her, so its not like she started....thats how I met her. I did have a feeling that it was over before I left for vacation because she said she couldnt meet with me...she was tired and needed to sleep early. So I thought it was over, but then 2 days later she texts me out of nowhere. So I figured if she wasnt interested, she would have just let it go.....
somedude81 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 All you can do is try to arrange a date with her. If she doesn't respond or turns you down then it's over.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Well, she did ignore me a few times before, but she would always get back to me the next day. And she's been on the dating website since I met her, so its not like she started....thats how I met her. I did have a feeling that it was over before I left for vacation because she said she couldnt meet with me...she was tired and needed to sleep early. So I thought it was over, but then 2 days later she texts me out of nowhere. So I figured if she wasnt interested, she would have just let it go..... It appears that's what she's done this time. Let this one go. She's not interested.
gaius Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 There's only one appropriate response to being ignored and that's to ignore them back.
winny Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Do not contact her. If she texts u... Ignore her.... And then hours later text that she is confusing u. And if she just wants to be friends u r no longer interested.
soccerrprp Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 OP, she's not that into you. She contacts you b/c she doesn't have another option. When she does, she'll stop all together. 1
truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 The mature thing to do is walk away, forget her and do not give her time of day. If she contacts you again and you feel the need to stick it to her, say: "Can you please stop bothering me. I'm seeing a great girl now and am very happy. Thanks."
ae86drift Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 So I've been dating this girl for a little over a month now and we had a good time, everything has been going pretty good. Lot of texting and talking. Recently she started getting more cold and now she completely ignores me. It started ever since I asked her where she wants to take this and after telling her we should focus on eachother and not date around. I told her that because she has been lurking dating sites still. I told her I like her and she just stood there and didn't say anything. Then she said we should start out as friends and that she's not ready to be in a relationship like her last one. After that I was gone on vacation and when I came back, she couldnt give me a ride from the airport. Then pretty much she stopped responding. What should I do? Move on find someone else, the harder you try the more she going to hate you, find someone else prettier and more educated
Author Stealth3 Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Guess I have to move on, thanks for the response everyone! This really sucks but better now than later. 1
Thegreatestthing Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I ignore when I like the guy too much and am worried I'm going to get hurt,it's a real problem. But I don't think that is what she is doing it's either a/ lost interest or b/ scared
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