maysj18 Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 (edited) Taste plays an important role too. I find my best friend's taste in men to be weird and she feels the same way about the men I date. This brings up a good point though: physical appearance isn't always number one on the list of attractive qualities. I know a girl who dated a guy all through college who had a birth defect that affected his face. He had surgery as a baby and they had to take out a portion of his skull so his face is scarred, dented, and "flawed", but you know what? He had the confidence, charm, and charisma that nobody questioned her choice. I mean, he was the nicest guy ever and honestly, he was hot. Everyone thought so. Those sort of things just disappear once you get to know someone. Now, sometimes you may just find someone unattractive and nothing ever changes. That's fine, but it doesn't mean they're flawed. I think that's a very bad way of looking at, because I'm positive you're equally as "flawed" to someone else. That's fine too. This is where personal preference comes in. Abs, ripped up bodies, clean shaven, etc. are some characteristics that most women drool over but I have never found those qualities attractive. Each to their own. Edited July 30, 2014 by maysj18 4
MissBee Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 People with flaws? That's most people. They get dates like everyone else. They meet someone who likes them and vice versa and go from there. 3
Smilecharmer Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 From noticing who my friends date and marry, I have concluded that one person's 2 really is another person's 10. I cannot tell you how many tens I've tried to get to know that opened their mouth and were so dumb, unpleasant, inconsiderate or cocky they were demoted to a two in couple of dates. 1
somedude81 Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 maysj18's example pretty much explains it. Guys with a serious physical defect, or simply being obese, can still date women if they have a very high level of confidence, charm, and charisma. Those qualities can trump looks. Though if you aren't confident or charming and you look bad, you're not going to date. Sorry.
USMCHokie Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 From noticing who my friends date and marry, I have concluded that one person's 2 really is another person's 10. I cannot tell you how many tens I've tried to get to know that opened their mouth and were so dumb, unpleasant, inconsiderate or cocky they were demoted to a two in couple of dates. But this does demonstrate a point that one is more likely to want to get to know the physical 10s than the physical 2s. Unless one is in a position where she is forced to interact with the physical 2s, then she probably won't take the time and effort to do so, at least not as enthusiastically as with the physical 10s.
amaysngrace Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 It's easy to get a date if you're physically flawed..date blind people and tell them you're a model... 4
bubbaganoosh Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 I know a guy who met a woman who was confined to a wheel chair. She was in a car accident and lost the use of her legs. She had a mini van with the hand peddles to use and she go around pretty well. When he met her, there was something there and he asked her out and she agreed and they had a great time. Asked her out again and things progressed and three years later, her Father wheeled her down the aisle of the church and they were married. 26 years later and still together and very happy. He made modifications to his home so it's wheel chair accessible and all is well that ends well. 5
Smilecharmer Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 I know a guy who met a woman who was confined to a wheel chair. She was in a car accident and lost the use of her legs. She had a mini van with the hand peddles to use and she go around pretty well. When he met her, there was something there and he asked her out and she agreed and they had a great time. Asked her out again and things progressed and three years later, her Father wheeled her down the aisle of the church and they were married. 26 years later and still together and very happy. He made modifications to his home so it's wheel chair accessible and all is well that ends well. Awwww, this post made me all weepy. So sweet. Thanks for sharing bubbaganoosh. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 without success there will be insecurity. shame ladies won't look past that. Success? As in money?? I call bullsh*t. Clearly you're not dating the right women if this is the case.
PogoStick Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 Who doesn't have physical flaws? Besides, there are many things you can control to improve your attractiveness. The real question should be, "Why don't you do everything in your control to make yourself more attractive"? 1
Dork Vader Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 It is simple. I am by no means perfect but I know I'm fairly attractive. That said I've dated all walks of life. I've dated women that would be considered extremely attractive. I've also dated women that would be considered average or unattractive. But I found them attractive. I found their "flaws" to be cute. It really boils down to beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Why? It all boils to chemistry and I think I can be happy with them. I knew society would look at it funny. I'd have friends ask me the same question you are. I'm dating that person for me. I'm not dating them to have a trophy on my shelf. Physical attraction is important. If you're not physically attracted to them it will make things difficult. But so long as you are, it does not matter where they land on societies 1-10 scale of beauty. It only matters where they land on YOUR scale of beauty. I know some of my flaws.. I'm going bald, i have pointy elf ears and so on.. But all of my ex'es found those flaws to be cute. I have also been on the other end in which I was dating someone that was physically out of my league. But again it did not matter they felt I was attractive and someone they could be happy with.
avoforastig Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 I think a good way to look at it is comparing things to a landscaping scene. If you look a a house and the grass is over grown, weeds everywhere, a big pile of leaves, dead flowers, most would agree it's not a great looking house. However, if you hire a landscaper to trim the lawn, plant some flowers, and pick the weeds, most people would agree the house looks better. The type of plants represent your personal style, some will like it and some won't. The important thing is your attitude, grooming, and clothing can go a long way no matter what!
Author bson1257 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 How do overweight and obese people date?
ascendotum Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 How do overweight and obese people date? overweight people date each other. that gives them a big % of the opposite sex population to choose from. Their favorite dates are the fruit dates that come in a packet, especially if they are covered in syrup.
CarrieT Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Some of us have/had no problem dating. We are just people, after all, and many people out there are not superficial. 2
carhill Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Additionally, depending on demographics, an overweight person can date a wide variety of people. I happened to have been married to one who was, by the time we divorced, married for nearly 25 of her 32 years as an adult to three men; she currently has a quite lithe and fit BF of nearly five years. If anything, I was the 'fattie' amongst her husbands. That's due to demographics. Women are in demand, even overweight and obese women. That's how it goes! The mechanics of it are the same, including lovemaking. It perhaps doesn't photograph as prettily as beautiful people making love but that's OK. Big world, lots of people, short life. 1
amaysngrace Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Spanx, high heels, teased hair and the color black 5
Gloria25 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 I can guarantee they are getting more sex/action than I am (which is no sex/action )!!!
Million.to.1 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 How do overweight and obese people date? Usually dates by overweight and obese people are arranged in person, on the phone or by text... Public or personal transport to get to the date is most common for overweight and obese people. Most of these obese/ overweight people have dates which include a meal, an activity or both. A movie is also a popular choice. I think that's how they date. Yip. 8
LittleTiger Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 Usually dates by overweight and obese people are arranged in person, on the phone or by text... Public or personal transport to get to the date is most common for overweight and obese people. Most of these obese/ overweight people have dates which include a meal, an activity or both. A movie is also a popular choice. I think that's how they date. Yip. You beat me to it! 2
sillyanswer Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 How do overweight and obese people date? I went on a couple of dates with a gorgeous overweight woman a few weeks ago. First date was a late breakfast / early brunch in a pub. Second date was lunch (noodles) and then we watched a film. Sadly she told me that we had too different energies for a third date. 4
TigerLilly78 Posted November 15, 2014 Posted November 15, 2014 How do overweight and obese people date? We date just like anyone else..lmao we also have long term relationships imagine that..There is a good amount of the population who do not care about if a persons appearance meets the standard of what sociaity says it should be or they are genuinely attracted to us.. 1
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