Venom01 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) I came across this article and thought it was funny, because I tend not to message anyone who isn't smiling in their profile picture (for online dating). What's your thoughts on this? Smiling Men Considered Less Attractive Edited January 6, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed url
Taramere Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Oh no. I like the positive energy of a broad grin. Clicking on the link, the guy in the picture looks like he's sporting a very fake grin - and that's certainly a turn off. Instantly makes you think of somebody who's trying to sell you something you're really going to regret buying. A genuine looking smile, however, is very attractive. Maybe it's just that a lot of people feel hellishly awkward in front of a camera (I know I do) and therefore their smiles in photographs often look a bit forced and awkward. In real life, though, I'd always gravitate towards the guy who is smiling more than the one who looks sullen and unfriendly. 2
antonio1149 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) I came across this article and thought it was funny, because I tend not to message anyone who isn't smiling in their profile picture (for online dating). What's your thoughts on this? I find this hard to believe in general. Also, it doesn't say whether the women were looking at live men or photos. I'm inclined to think women looking at photos are much more attracted to a smiling face than a brooding one. They are already concerned, in OLD, about meeting serial killers so anything that says "I'm probably angry and unhappy, and might even be a serial killer" can't be good. Edited January 6, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 They might need to redo that survey. A warm smile will win me over every time. Had a guy message me once with no profile picture. He claimed he was an attractive guy, so I told him to send a pic. He sends me a pic of a not so attractive older man with what was almost a scowl on his face. I told him, "Seriously?? You look like you would strangle me and put my body in your shed. No thanks!" 1
MrMeh Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Some people have better-looking smiles than others. They could have contrasted two or more pictures where the single individual was smiling in one picture and brooding in another.
Imported Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 (edited) I have been told by a few women, I don't really smile, I smirk. I don't really know how to explain it, but I agree with the "study". Getting women to like you off the bat does not involve smiling for no reason. Sure, if there is a reason to smile, then smile. No, of course don't be looking like you're sad and unhappy, but that is a far cry from just not smiling for no reason. I smile at girls for the purpose of seeing what they do, but I don't think I ever show teeth when I do that. I usually nod my head towards them and I am thinking heavy thoughts about their naked body and how attracted I am and all the fun I can have with them. Edited January 6, 2014 by Imported
carhill Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 IME, it depends on the man. One can be a bit smug and not smile, or smirk a bit, or smile openly and find largely similar results. My conjecture is that, the further one departs from being universally attractive, the more likely individual preferences regarding smiling come into play, as well as more drastic and disparate perceptions between different kinds of expression. One observation in support of a smiling man being less attractive is the perception that his smile, if genuine, is a window to his current emotions, leaving little mystery. IME, women like their men, in the beginning anyway, to be a bit mysterious and then, later greatly value that sincere smile he flashes her way, validating that she's special and has pleased him. Perhaps that generational but it's definitely been my observation in life and experience personally, being a guy who's pretty transparent with such matters, meaning there's no 'agenda' to my smiles; they're spontaneous and common since I'm a generally contented soul. I know this because friends commonly ask 'what's wrong?' when they're missing and comment on that point specifically. Some smiling men are considered less attractive; however, I wouldn't include my sample images of Clint Eastwood amongst those, nor those of friends like that I know in real life. When they smile, it's like that toothpaste commercial. It's contagious. Really fun to watch, too.
Tayla Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 So long as when he is smiling he has a nice set of teeth or dentures! I am not picky I find a warm smile , inviting. Now if he is smiling like the JOKER then I run for the hills and call Batman and Robin!
Elias33 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'd like to think the article is true, but I know better. I don't smile much but have been told numerous time that I have an attractive smile. So yeah, article is not accurate I assume.
Eau Claire Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'm a woman. I am attracted to a man with a nice smile. Some of us live in the real world.
kodakgirl Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I loooove a good smile-- an otherwise average looking guy with a brilliant, uninhibited smile can knock me off my feet! Granted, some men look kind of sexy brooding ( James dean, Montgomery Clift) -- but for me, even in these cases the smile melts me more than the sexy look. A guy I dated this summer was very good-looking, but he could come across both as handsome , when not smiling, or adorable when smiling... I'd look at him and think wow n a regular basis, but that smile was stirred it all up. Also, I met him online and his one picture was him with a great smile-- I messaged adorable and got handsome as a bonus, I probably wouldn't have written if it had been the other way around, give me adorable!
MrCastle Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I don't smile much. I get by just fine. I think it really depends on the person's face. My smile is no match for my sexy scowl. 1
regine_phalange Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I love when someone smiles like stupid when he sees me, because I'm that way too. - Hey - Hi! How are you? - Not very well. I got fired. - Oh, I'm so sorry - Yes. I have been so sad - I know what you mean. - ... - ... - ... - Gotta go! - See ya! 1
pteromom Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I loooove a good smile-- an otherwise average looking guy with a brilliant, uninhibited smile can knock me off my feet! Here too. I love a great smile!
William Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 As the thread starter was banned for spamming a particular commercial site in different threads, which is why the survey link was removed, members are welcomed to continue to discuss whether and why smiling men are or are not considered less attractive. Survey/data links are welcomed as long as they do not lead to commercial web sites with stuff for sale. Thanks!
RedRobin Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I'm trying to remember if I ever responded to a guy online who wasn't smiling in his pic... (gears turning)... No, I haven't. One data point for smiles.
ponchsox Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I can tell you with certainty a man who frowns, mopes, and doesn't smile will not have dating success.
OpheliaSong Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Cute smiles with dimples is an asset. This seems like a weird study because I wouldn't want to go out with someone who doesn't smile. Grouchy men aren't that interesting to me.
Imported Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I think the common mistake that women who have posted here is making is thinking that not smiling is looking "mopping, frowning, looking unhappy sad or angry". It is not. 1
ChrisPA5126 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Hm..well this is awkward. I find that I typically am more attractive to a guy with a stern look on his face. Not indicating that a grin is not charming, but I feel opposites attract. I constantly smile, and laugh, and sometimes I'd like someone to balance that out. A smirk would even suffice, it shows they're not easily entertained by the idiocracy of society, and comes off as aloof. For some reason, I'm not sure to explain, I like the mystery behind the hidden smile. I enjoy working towards getting to know someone,and feeling well achieved!
Badsingularity Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I think the post above describes well the expression that women find attractive. Not moping or frowning. It's a look of strength, confidence, and accomplishment.
potsticker Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Many women in here thinking the study is wrong; but do women really know what they want? Women like smiling because it's non-threatening but non-threatening isn't exactly sexy either. A worthy mate is different than a friendship, I think the contrast needs to be made between the two. i'm sure it differs on a personal basis. And ofc on the smile of the guy in question But I think you can also flip genders here and say the same. The few girls I remember practically instantly falling for were ones with amazing smiles and laughs that drew me in like a moth to the flame. But then again, it's not as if any girl I meet would get more of a reaction from me if she were smiling... depends on who, and is rather out of my control.
zebracolors Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 When I'm out having fun or whatever, I know I usually feel much more at ease with approaching, conversing with or even dancing with guys who were openly smiling in that kind of social setting. There was one guy once that I met at a dance/karaoke night, we danced a lot together and I never got to ask his name but really the only reason I remember him still was because he had this amazing, warm smile. (hope I run into him again someday) So maybe smiles might make a guy memorable you think?
FitChick Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 I prefer a smiling man. Hate those 'prison mug shots' or 'I'm a cool guy' smirks.
Eau Claire Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Men need to understand that we women want to feel secure when meeting a new man...at ease. It isn't a secondary need but front and center. James Dean may have brooded but a woman knew it was James Dean. If Charles, John or some other stranger on OLD isn't smiling, he may be Psycho man from Hell. We women have our radar turned on full when deciding to meet a man or not.
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