SarcasticAbby Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I've been doing the online thing and generally never find a connection. Maybe it's me... I'm often told I have walls up and I have to admit I do. I find it very hard to get attached and feel that when the person is the one I'll just know. I know... A little too romcomy but it's just how I feel. I have been in love before and know a good relationship and hope it will just magically happen again lol Anyway... Just two weeks ago (yes just 2 weeks... I know...) I came across a guy who...for lack of a better word has literally blown me away. He just seems so different. I'm not one to fall for crap but he's really making me fall for what may just be crap. He is recently out of a long term relationship, which scares me. I've made it perfectly clear that it worries me but he's reassured me that she cheated and him going back is not something he would ever consider. I know... No one ever says I'm going to take a cheater back the moment they come crawling. I told him I have no intentions on being a rebound and he continues to assure me I'm not and how much we click and how much he likes me. So things have been going great and then last night happens. He said he's been getting more hits on his profile and was wondering what he should do...respond? Ignore? I initially asked what he thought. I mean if it's up he must want to see what's out there and if he's asking he must be interested. And I told him that. He of course came back and said no he only was interested in me. So I said then he should delete it. But he came back and told me that"some of the responses are hot lol". Is he trying to hurt my feelings? I told him he should continue if that's how he felt and I was going to back off. A few minutes later he drove to my house 30 minutes away at 130am just to prove he only wanted me. Nothing happened...just kissed which had not happened up to this point. I told him I only wanted him but he just smiled and we continued to kiss... I was more hoping for an ok let's take down our profiles. Maybe 2 wks is just too soon to expect that. He stayed 30 minutes and then drove home. 10 minutes after he left I noticed he was back online. Wtf??? It hurt my feelings again and I told him and a bit of an argument ensued. Maybe I'm being too clingy and feel like I build walls for a reason and let my guard down for him too soon. He texted me when he got home but I was already asleep and the text made it sound like I was the one uninterested. I texted him this morning to apologize but haven't heard back. That was almost 2 hours ago. Maybe I blew it? Maybe I should walk away? Please help me...
MrMeh Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds like you are his default girl till he finds a "better" choice. 1
Author SarcasticAbby Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds like you are his default girl till he finds a "better" choice. Great... That's what I was afraid of. I wish he'd stop blowing smoke up my ass. Guess these walls were built for a reason and I'll just let another one go. Ugh!
furby19 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds like you are his default girl till he finds a "better" choice. I agree. The only thing I will suggest is backing out slowly. I would not stop dating him though. I would go back to dating online, too. I will keep looking and keep dating other people. If something happens with you and him in the long run then it will. However, I would not put all my eggs in one basket with him.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 He's playing you. The commitment would shine through and you would be able to FEEL it. You don't. You have doubts. There are valid origins for these doubts. It's frustrating but there are guys out there that will treat you right. Have the self respect and the fortitude to do what is in your best interests.
Author SarcasticAbby Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Thanks guys...you're right. But he hasn't responded so maybe he's made the decision for me. I'll keep dating and do my usual... Not get my hopes up with this one either.
Purepony Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds to me like he was just trying to score because why would he drive to yout house at 130?
Author SarcasticAbby Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds to me like he was just trying to score because why would he drive to yout house at 130? I knew somebody would come back with that but it was because I refused to answer the phone. He didn't even want to come in although I did convince him to...it's freezing outside. My kids were awake (they're 12&13) so he knew that was not possible.
from Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If I were you, I'd cut contact with him and look for someone else. I know that if I meet someone that I spend two weeks talking to / hanging out with, I have absolutely zero interest in pursuing anyone else. It doesn't say anything about his character that he drove to you at 1:30 am when it was not what you were asking for in the first place.
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