MissedALesson Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Hi, I was friends with this guy for almost a year - we met via my job. We texted and emailed and occasionally chatted via FB a lot. I think he tried to flirt with me once, but I was distracted and it fell flat. Since then, I've been the one usually to initiate conversation. But, he invariably would text me every 10 days or so to see how I was doing. On Christmas eve, he had trouble in his apartment and didn't have power/water, and needed a place to shower. So I invited him, he came, showered, and we talked endlessly, had a great time and it ended with some heavy making out. I said no to sex because I really was unsure. He sad he understood and it made sense to wait. He wanted to know when he could see me again, and made plans for 3 days after - came over, talked, made out, spent the night, no sex. He texted me constantly for the next few days, then nothing. I asked if he wanted to meet again, he said of course, and we made plans for the 1st. He called two hours before and said he could only stay for a few hours. He came and promptly fell asleep. Since then, he has been avoiding me completely. Avoiding texts, calls...finally, I asked him whether this was something that he got into because he was bored, and now didn't know how to get out of. No response. What just happened? FYI, he I'm 34, He is 31, I'm South Asian, he's Jewish (Caucasian). I thought he was a friend, and a decent person who could at least be upfront about what was going on.
somedude81 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Sounds like you were never in a relationship with the guy.
Author MissedALesson Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 I know, it wasn't a relationship, but I'm confused as to what just happened. hook-up, or pre-dating or whatever, why would a guy just not say that he is no longer interested? Why pretend and be juvenile about it?
Kalinka1 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Ah, some guys are like this. Maybe he has something else going on in his life right now that you don't know about. Anyway, I would not preoccupy myself with it, the ball is in his court now so just wait and see, but don't 'wait around' if you know what I mean.
somedude81 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I know, it wasn't a relationship, but I'm confused as to what just happened. hook-up, or pre-dating or whatever, why would a guy just not say that he is no longer interested? Why pretend and be juvenile about it? Sounds like he was looking for a quick lay, you said no both times he tried to have sex, then he lost interest. When was the last time you heard from him?
Author MissedALesson Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 I last saw him on Wednesday - where I was willing to have sex, but he didn't have any condoms. And we both agreed that next time we met, we'd go all the way and have sex. Then he went to sleep. He has been avoiding me ever since.
somedude81 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Hmm, then I don't know what's going on. All you can do is wait and see if he contacts you.
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