truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I was interested in a girl a very long time ago, and she was interested in me. She was immature and would play games. I got annoyed, got upset and called her out on it. She lied, insulted my intelligence and I stopped speaking to her. Well, new year is here and she's coming around again to see what I'm up to. See if I'm single, available, maybe have let go of what happened before, ie, pretend it never happened. I'm the type of person to drop people when they do something I deem unforgivable. When it comes to women, if I catch them in a lie, I immediately go cold and don't speak to them again. Maybe it's my personality and I'm over reacting?
bubbaganoosh Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Why would you want to waste your time with someone who insulted you. You were on the receiving end of it once before so why chance it again? Leave it alone and move on 1
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 The Angel on my right shoulder says: "She's no good. Ignore." The Devil on my left shoulder says: "Sleep with her then throw her out of your apartment."
mammasita Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Don't waste your time, she might be crazy lol.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 She came to me to test waters. Again, I know better, but she got a nice body and I wouldn't mind getting her in bed. This is a classic battle between my brain and my d-ck.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 So you are willing to throw out your self-respect for some ass? Well, best of luck.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 If I chased after her, then I'm throwing out my self-respect. If she's stupid enough to chase me and jump into my bed... who's the one losing self-respect?
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If I chased after her, then I'm throwing out my self-respect. If she's stupid enough to chase me and jump into my bed... who's the one losing self-respect? You are. She's the one who pissed on you before -- all she has to do is bat her eyes and flirt and you forget that? I mean, there are plenty of attractive women that won't treat you like she did. But like I said, best of luck.
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If I chased after her, then I'm throwing out my self-respect. If she's stupid enough to chase me and jump into my bed... who's the one losing self-respect? You're going to treat jerk behaviour with jerk behaviour? Here's an idea, why not, as Simon said, have some self-respect and tell her to go bother someone else?
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 You are. She's the one who pissed on you before -- all she has to do is bat her eyes and flirt and you forget that? I mean, there are plenty of attractive women that won't treat you like she did. But like I said, best of luck. Okay, my brain is now winning the war over my d-ck.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 You're going to treat jerk behaviour with jerk behaviour? Here's an idea, why not, as Simon said, have some self-respect and tell her to go bother someone else? Good point. Dating someone else and letting her know she missed out on a great guy is the way to go.
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Good point. Dating someone else and letting her know she missed out on a great guy is the way to go. No, you date someone else because you want to date them, not to rub it in someone else's face.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 No, you date someone else because you want to date them, not to rub it in someone else's face. Yes, I get that. You misconstrued what I wrote. By me being happy with someone else she'll understand I don't need her and she's a fool to have played games.
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Yes, I get that. You misconstrued what I wrote. By me being happy with someone else she'll understand I don't need her and she's a fool to have played games. Probably not. She probably won't care. Neither should you. 1
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Probably not. She probably won't care. Neither should you. If she doesn't care, why come around again?
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 If she doesn't care, why come around again? Because she wants to see if you'll be on the hook. This is about her. She doesn't care about your feelings, she just wants to get her ego stroked.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Because she wants to see if you'll be on the hook. This is about her. She doesn't care about your feelings, she just wants to get her ego stroked. Even if she offers sex?
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Even if she offers sex? Yes, even if she offers you sex. Plenty of people have sex with people they don't care about. It's called a one night stand, or scratching the itch, or whatever. An offer does not mean she wants to be your girlfriend. Besides, if she was actually serious about dating you, she wouldn't offer sex. Not without risking the guy thinking she's a whore. Sadly, many men still have a caveman attitude towards sex for pleasure - so a smart girl plays it cool and does NOT offer up the goods straight away.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Yes, even if she offers you sex. Plenty of people have sex with people they don't care about. It's called a one night stand, or scratching the itch, or whatever. An offer does not mean she wants to be your girlfriend. Besides, if she was actually serious about dating you, she wouldn't offer sex. Not without risking the guy thinking she's a whore. Sadly, many men still have a caveman attitude towards sex for pleasure - so a smart girl plays it cool and does NOT offer up the goods straight away. I'm not expecting her to be my girlfriend. I'm looking at this two ways: 1) NSA sex, never see her again. 2) NSA sex, she suddenly wants a relationship, I go NC on her, she flips out and I got her after me.
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'm not expecting her to be my girlfriend. I'm looking at this two ways: 1) NSA sex, never see her again. 2) NSA sex, she suddenly wants a relationship, I go NC on her, she flips out and I got her after me. Stop trying to manipulate her and consider being a grown up about dating, that is, finding someone with whom you can have a mature conversation about dating and having fun.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Stop trying to manipulate her and consider being a grown up about dating, that is, finding someone with whom you can have a mature conversation about dating and having fun. Damn. You're taking all the fun out of this!
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Damn. You're taking all the fun out of this! Treating people like crap is not 'fun'.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Treating people like crap is not 'fun'. I agree. I'm saying if she is coming back to me isn't she asking for it?
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I agree. I'm saying if she is coming back to me isn't she asking for it? So what if she is? Why can't you be the better person? Why can't you be a grown up? Abdicating responsibility doesn't make you innocent, it makes you an enabler.
Author truth_seeker Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 So what if she is? Why can't you be the better person? Why can't you be a grown up? Abdicating responsibility doesn't make you innocent, it makes you an enabler. So if she shows up at my door, drops her dress and wants me, I say no?
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