alex007 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Just the other night my ex of 3 or 4 months ago texted me this exact line.. "hey Alex, I know the last time we talked things didnt end on good terms. I have been thinking about you lately and I know you are getting your career going now and wanted to wish you good luck and I hope you had good holidays." I just replied saying "hey, thats funny because I have been thinking about you too. I hope you and your family are doing great!" Then she said "they are all doing good thanks!" And I never replied. This is the same girl that a month and a half ago didnt even wanna meet up and be friends with me anymore. What do you all think was her motive? And reason?
strive Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Sorry, I don't know your BU story, but if a dumper contacts you it's usually one (or all) of these things: 1) Randomly sending breadcrumbs 2) Trying to see if she still has any hold on you 3) Grass not so green on the other side as she had hoped 4) Lining you up as her fallback guy especially since a) she didn't want to be your friend and b) she mentioned the BU on the first sentence. 3
barky2 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Relieving guilt. That's all that was. Nothing else. Nothing more. Hense how she stopped texting after that? There's no abcdefg theory.... It's her tryin to be friendly to relieve guilt. Now crawl back into your nc hole and stay there for good. If she had something to say she woulda made it clear,which she did not Barky 5
Am4Real Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Agree as posted. Relieving guilt. That's all that was. Nothing else. Nothing more. Hense how she stopped texting after that? There's no abcdefg theory.... It's her tryin to be friendly to relieve guilt. Now crawl back into your nc hole and stay there for good. If she had something to say she woulda made it clear,which she did not Barky
Supes Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 This is the same girl that a month and a half ago didnt even wanna meet up and be friends with me anymore. Feck it. That to me is reason enough not to reply to her. I think that if she genuinely has honest feelings for you she would have been back in touch after 2-3 weeks. 6 weeks later says to me that she's just looking for a back up guy.
Author alex007 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Well she just texted me right now saying "Hey, I was just wondering if you've heard anything from the *insert job name here*? I am wondering why she wants to know... and why she is texting me in the first place...
legion113 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Well she just texted me right now saying "Hey, I was just wondering if you've heard anything from the *insert job name here*? I am wondering why she wants to know... and why she is texting me in the first place... golddigger? Ok seriously, here's how it is, you are moving on to bigger and better things..WITHOUT her, and that's hard for people to deal with. Like being left behind. She's probably doing the same thing she did when you broke up. Like they always say, the best revenge is living well. 1
Juha Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 She is feeling bad and guilty about what she did and how she treated you. She is trying to make it for herself that you are ok with how she treated you and the two of you are friendly. She may care about you and what's going on with your life but she broke up with you and gave up her rights to your life. Ignore that crap. 2
Author alex007 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Thanks guys. Much appreciated. I am just ignoring her I wont respond.
barky2 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Once again, striking up friendly conversation to ease the guilt. Let her bask in the guilt. Don't give her a damn inch. But boost your own ego knowing she's thinking of you....for what it's worth. * pats you on back * keep it up broski. Barky 2
StyleOnEm Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 It sounds to me like she's trying to slowly weasel back into your life and trying not to overstep any boundaries, hence part of her distance in the first few texts. My hunch is if you keep ignoring her msg's, you will surely get one with her true intentions (ie: Alex, i miss you so much and i really want to catch up, are you free on wednesday evening for dinner/coffee?) 1
Juha Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 It sounds to me like she's trying to slowly weasel back into your life and trying not to overstep any boundaries, hence part of her distance in the first few texts. My hunch is if you keep ignoring her msg's, you will surely get one with her true intentions (ie: Alex, i miss you so much and i really want to catch up, are you free on wednesday evening for dinner/coffee?) I would not be so sure of this. She may just want to know what is going on with you. SHe may be trying to relieve her guilt. Just because they are in contact does not mean their true intentions are to get together. I thought that with my most recent ex and she went off on me when I suggested it. Later she said that all she wants was to get together and talk but never followed through to this day. 1
Author alex007 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 It could be both, I have no clue what she is thinking and I am actually much happier with her out of my life. At first I asked if we could work things out and get back to things etc etc months ago... but now i truly do not want any of that and am happy dating other girls right now. 1
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