pandawc Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Hi all, I've been on LS couple of times when a relationship of mine ended in early 2012. It was right then I was moving on that I met another guy whom I begin to rely on... and broke my heart again at the end of 2012 . LS helped me loads. I often browse all the threads until I gotten so tired of the same stuff repeating and what not that I eventually stopped back then. I will be stopping soon too. I met this guy B when I was going through a BU of a 3 year r/s. It was tough. I met B through work. Initially we were just friends, but we begun hanging out more, especially growing closer due to being in the same work environment. I was skeptical. He had a gf of few years but he broke it off... to be with me? I felt he was sincere. Eventually we spent a months worth of time with each other daily. Life's great. .. until the ex came back. Things were threw into a whirlwind. I was confused. I decided to break it off with B as I feel he will still have unresolved issues with his ex as well. During that period, B was devastated. He took to drinking and texting me lots which I tried not to reply or answer his calls. After days, I finally caved in... We had a couple of rough months.. it was until oct that I decided I could not carry on contact with the ex, because I wanted to be fair to B. His ex was close with the family, and they planned a trip together for a week. I was gracious I suppose... when he came back, he wanted to break if off with me. I was a wrecked. So much for trusting that he would love me and opening up to him. For the next 2-3weeks I was pleading bbegging and settling for what I would not want now. I texted spammed his mobile, I was in denial. He said he love me but can't be with me because his family already acknowledge his ex as their daughter in law. And it would be for the best to break it off with me... 1 day his gf found out I was in contact with him and things went down. I felt bad but wasnt enough to stop wanting to contact him. That was end of wk 3. I wanted to see him, to hold him, to go back to what it was. But he declined all of my wishes. He stopped replying wk4 & 5. With my texts, they die down gradually. It was not until new years eve that he agrees to meet me. I just felt like, I wanted a good ending of 2013 with him. It was great, we talked for hours. The next day we went out normally. But I knew it was the end. He lied to me about stuffs which I have came to accept that. My epiphany came when I realised that nothing good would come out of us. He had chosen her. He didnt want me in his life. And that I should back off... I told him that and didnt replied afterwards. Next day, he called me late night and I picked up. We talked and that was it. I didnt text or anything. The following day he did the same. Whats the deal? I am accepting the fact and feels like he is dragging things. I'm not sure what he wants now.. but .. I guess after 7 full weeks, I'm ready to move on. Im ready to be determined to stop contact with him if he doesnt contact me. So to all dumpees, you will get through it. It doesnt matter if they lied. Stop second guessing their actions whether they love you or not. Its tiring and you should look pass it and move on slowly like I did.
iworthmore Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) glad you can move on. first i misunderstood you. and wrote another reply. stay strong with the NC Edited January 5, 2014 by iworthmore
Author pandawc Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Sorry, I haven't moved on quite at all... Somehow I feel like I have became the other woman.... I'm ending it. The feelings doesn't tally in my heart. I can't do it anymore. But I am having something important for these 2 weeks, so I'll let my feelings for him go gradually.
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