btvdts Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I think I'm going on three months since BU. I still think about her but not nearly as much. when I do think about her, it's usually triggered by seeing a happy couple and I wonder if she's happy with her new man. like if he treats her well and makes her smile. The thoughts don't linger. I've had no contact with her since I moved away so I've had no set backs. weirdly enough if I try to picture her face, it's not clear. I Truely can't say if she wanted me back if I would say no.. Just being honest. she hurt me very badly. Not so much that she no longer wanted to be with me, but the fact that she stringed me along for a few weeks,and when she finally ended she threw me out(we lived together ) that same day knowing I had no family in the whole damn state and no money to stay anywhere. Even after i asked her if I could have a couple of days to get things figured out and leave, said I'd sleep on the couch and not bother her, she said no to please be gone. just so you understand the night before we cuddled in bed it's not like I became this evil monster overnight. I know dumpers want is gone but I Literly supported her and her kids for 2 yrs, and a few days was too much to ask for. So back to the question. I'm not mad, I don't think I'm in denial, so where am I? Just sad?
MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I know what you mean, sometimes it's hard to know where you are once time has passed. It's been four months for me and I'm not sure how I feel. I have no hope left of us getting back together so I think I'm past acceptance. I'm too not that happy or mad. You sound like you need to find closure on your own still, you still can't understand how she could of been so cold to you that night. You sound like you're moving on but you're discouraged and still a little downhearted by what happened. That's cool though I would be too if my ex did that to me. Good luck bro I hope you find where you are. This might help. http://31.media.tumblr.com/eb88c16a7522cdf58201a286c986ff0a/tumblr_muj547TMai1sovbevo1_1280.jpg
iworthmore Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 mate that's great u'v made this far by moving on. u cant ever picture her face well. that's great signs ur moving on fast. if i was u ill be in much worse situation. i dont think ur sad. u just realize how heartless she is. and how she easily forget someone who treated her kids well and just wont let him stay for the night. rude and selfish behaviour. the whole dumpers thing is very confusing, im here alot and i read alot. many stories abt dumping right after a romantic night. why?? only those bipolar's know the answer. ur in a good stage mate. and u look very calm and maybe you forgave her, ur strong, keep ur head up
MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I think they do it after a romantic night to try and see how they feel, if they're still connected. Totally selfish.
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