Ordinaryday Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Has this happened to anyone? A few times I have been extremely hurt by exes, they treated me like dirt! They were so nasty and cruel and mentally abusive to me, and eventually we broke up or I walked away. I have no desire to EVER see or communicate with them again, not even on a 'just friends' basis. And yet a few times over the years I have inexplicably gotten an email or facebook message from one of these exes in which they said that they 'forgive' me for what I did to them. :/ I don't understand this, they treated me like dirt and mentally abused me and somehow they 'forgive' me? What do you make of this? All I can think is that in their own minds they had somehow framed or interpreted things to make me the 'bad guy' and they honestly believed they were doing me some sort of favour by letting me know that they 'forgive' me! I find this incredibly rude and presumptuous on their part, since I did nothing that I believe needs forgiving, if anything they should be begging me for forgiveness. Has anyone here ever had anything similar happen to them? what do you make of it? and how did you respond? My response was the only way I know - simply completely ignoring their letter to me. I have no desire to communicate with them, make peace with them, 'accept' their letter or open the door to any possible future communication. I think simply ignoring the correspondence conveys that message. what do you think? is this kind of thing common? has it ever happened to you? how did you respond?
headinthecloud Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 You are attracted to narcissists. Change your pattern of behaviour if you want to be happy. Your exes are morons - anyone who sends a "I forgive you" communication when they were the arrogant arse is a total idiot. 1
Author Ordinaryday Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 You are attracted to narcissists. Change your pattern of behaviour if you want to be happy. Your exes are morons - anyone who sends a "I forgive you" communication when they were the arrogant arse is a total idiot. Completely agree! The worst part is that I believe that they truly believe that I was the 'bad guy' and they are somehow doing me a favour by contacting me like this. I even said to them when we broke up "Don't EVER contact me again, EVER" and they STILL contact me like this, and act like they are doing me a favour by doing so!
HorseLuck Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Wow..that's maddening. Props to you for being able to ignore and not respond. That would ruffle my feathers, haha. Its bad enough when exes want to check in.
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