Kevin_D Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Usually, I love to spend time alone. Sometimes I would even get irritated at my ex because I wanted more time on my own. The first weeks after the breakup was hell. I couldn't sleep and I couln't eat. I tried to fix this by working out, but since I had no energy I was unable to do that as well. But, since I still was in denial, I had HOPE. I wanted to demonstrate my value by recording great songs, making greart art etc. Now, after two months, I feel a lot better. I eat well, exercise and sleep at nights. I've accepted that she isn't coming back and even if she is, things will never be the same. So I'm working on my social skills and trying to look my best. A cute girl wants to meet me and I think I'll have a drink with her next week. However... I just can't seem to focus. I have so many interests and usually I can focus on the same task for MONTHS, but now... I just can't do it. - Music? No fun. - 3D-modelling? No fun. - Programming? Too much busy work. - Watch a movie? Nope. - Exercise? Yes, but I caught a cold and can't do that for a week. I realise that this must be some kind of depression. I don't really miss her, I don't feel like calling her... But something is missing. Everytime I was working on a project, I would tell her everything about it. And now... nobody cares. It seems pointless. I'm not sad, I'm not happy, I'm just ...alive. Do you have any advice to give? I want to feel excitement again.
PS.chicago Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) There's just this big void that has been left by your ex. It happens to all of us. You're doing the right things by trying to keep occupied. I wouldn't be too eager to label it as depression just yet. Edited January 5, 2014 by PS.chicago grammar 1
iworthmore Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 go meet the cute girl. don't rebound. and who know's you might be blown of how fast she can make you forget abt ur ex. dating again is the best for moving on. but its also risky as a rebound so id suggest that you keep meeting that girl maybe the void will be filled. but sowly and carefuly great progress mate. keep us updated.
Author Kevin_D Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 go meet the cute girl. don't rebound. and who know's you might be blown of how fast she can make you forget abt ur ex. dating again is the best for moving on. but its also risky as a rebound so id suggest that you keep meeting that girl maybe the void will be filled. but sowly and carefuly great progress mate. keep us updated. Thanks! I'm not looking for a rebound. It would be nice to have a few female friends to have a drink with from time to time though. I'm doing a bit better today. I made a decision... Everyone tells me that I should put everything that reminds me of her in a box. No way! Because almost everything I hold dear reminds me of her. I'm not going to change just because she made a stupid decision. I'm not letting her ruin a good a movie just because I watched it with her. If she doesn't want to be part of all the fun anymore, that's her problem, not mine. You know what made me realise this? One time I drank way too much white wine. I got drunk and started to puke. After that, I felt sick just by looking at a bottle. But then I told myself: "I love food and wine. I'm not letting one bad experience stop me". So I forced my self to drink white wine. And after a while, I started to like it again. She introduced new things to me that I love. While she may be gone, I can still enjoy the things the introduced.
jphcbpa Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 you should put things that remind you of her in a box. have a friend help you. have them hold onto it for you.
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