very contradictory signs, do you think she's interested??

[Z_man99]

Hi guys and girls,

 

I'm in a really confusing situation. I have had feelings for a work colleague for months and months now, however I had been dating for a period of that time. I left my girlfriend about a month ago now, after a number of disagreements we had whilst travelling overseas.

 

I hung out with this work colleague, and I Asked if, once this ex stuff had blown over, if she would be interested in dating, and she replied with "I thought we were friends? are you asking me out?".... a few days later we went out for dinner and she told me she had the same feelings for me, but didn't think dating was a good idea because we're work colleagues, and because she doesn't want to hurt me.

 

but we've been hanging out a LOT recently.

 

Friday night she came over for dinner and a movie, and after the movie I kissed her, she kissed back, and we kissed several times. She then groaned and said "this feels weird", and I said why, and she said "because we work together, and because you just had a break up recently and I know you're lonely and I don't want to be the girl to fill that hole or a rebound" so I basically said "you're right I am lonely, but I dont think those points are applicable here because a rebound suggests a fling after a relationship, as we spoke about a few weeks ago this has been ongoing".... so we kissed a LOT for a while, cuddled, she kept saying she should go but she never got up to go...

 

finally she left at 1am, i asked if she felt uncomfortable at all about the night and she said no, and i kissed her when she left. a few minutes later I texted her *hugs*, and she sent back a smiley face. I then sent another text saying "look i... tonight made me very happy, but I totally appreciate where you're coming from and where you stand, and if you'd rather I can stand back" and she responded "let me ponder this... :)"

 

The next day we texted eachother as per normal, until night when I sent a text saying "I've been blushing a fair amount today" and she responded jokingly saying "must be the heat", and so I replied "yep that's totally it, how have you been feeling today?" and she didn't respond.

 

now we were meant to see eachother tonight, for an open air cinema... and yesterday she was all for it.... i texted her this morning asking if she's still up for it and she responded saying "I might give tonight a miss, if thats okay man? We can do something later in the week?" and I said back "all good you okay? dreading work tomorrow orrrr? We'll have to do beers after work thursday :)" (i said this because she was very very upset friday night about going back to work after a holiday)... and she responded with "lol yeah I'm ok Beer is always a good idea. Have a good Sunday! I'll see you tomorrow but be warned I'm not going to be in a good mood lol :)"

 

so.... whats your interpretation? I thought she was into me, from all the kissing and cuddling and her saying she had mutual feelings, and her saying "let me ponder this :)" when I Said I could step back..

 

but now I'm thinking she's not.

 

???

[roaminghart11]

From what you said, it sounds like she might have had something else to deal with on that Sunday and couldn't make the date. Maybe some personal/family stuff that she had to do.