letmoc Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Hello All I was in a relationship with a cm for a little over a year. I went NC several months ago and stayed that way. I began a relationship with a single available man who is wonderful. Well about a month ago cm contacted me and let me know he was single (which I knew because we have mutual friends). Long story short he wants us to try again. I'm confused because honestly I have feelings for both of them. I would never want to do anything to hurt my now boyfriend as he has been so good to me. But former cm did respect my wishes and stay away until he was single. But I still have some major trust issues where he is concerned. Any advice is appreciated
MissBee Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I wouldn't give up this current relationship personally for one where you're going into it with trust issues. 5
imperfectangel Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 sorry but your ex has proved he's a cheat and you know what he's capable of I would risk losing a good man for someone like that 1
Nothisgirl Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I wouldn't give up this current relationship personally for one where you're going into it with trust issues. Neither would I but the fact that you're even considering it makes me wonder if your over him enough to be able to give the new bf what he deserves....I'm so sorry, I bet you're feeling really torn right now torn between what your hear t wants and what your head says is the best thing for you I totally understand 1
Oldspiceywolf Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I say never dump anyone who wouldn't dump somebody for you. I had that option and stayed with the current girlfriend when ex AP cam calling after she broke up. I told her no, you didn't do it for me, she cried, I said I love you but sorry. She went back to her ex and I married my girlfriend, we have beautiful child! 2
Sunny_Girl Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 The fact that you even have to pose the question "can I trust him" should give you enough clarity...you shouldn't trust him. You know what he is capable of (cheating). I completely understand what you are dealing with (I experienced similar), but I have learned that past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior/actions. Accept the lesson, don't look back, and focus on developing your new relationship. 1
Author letmoc Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 You are all so right. This man is back in my life for five minutes and I'm an insecure mess again. Ridiculous. 3
MissBee Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 You are all so right. This man is back in my life for five minutes and I'm an insecure mess again. Ridiculous. Good call! That should be the clue. If you're with someone who makes you feel secure and you're not having to guess about everything and dissect his actions it's best you stay put than jump ship for the "excitement" of someone who you may feel a lot more intense with because the relationship is always hanging by a thread.
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