JDPT Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 good idea. i'll sleep on it. right now i'm worried she may have gotten rid of it and i've been doing nothing but panicking. Don't work on fictitious scenarios, but rather develop on facts. Don't make yourself crazy about it as meaningful as this item may be. Tomorrow the issue will still be there, the only difference is that you will have a different mind set. 1
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 No. Firstly, if it was such a "good luck charm", you shouldn't have given it away to someone. Secondly, there is no such thing as good luck charm. Thirdly, assume all gifts given are potential spoils of war. I, personally, like to give things back. But never give something unless you're happy to not see it returned. Lastly, stop using the necklace as a way to force contact with your ex. She's gone. 2
SurplusIndifference Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 i need advice on what to say, without it seeming like i want to talk to her... If you need advice like this, then it isn't the chain you are looking for. 1
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 this is how i feel about my chain. anyways, i hate my ex now, she doesn't deserve it, i'm going to email her.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I mean, you gave it to her as a gift. Once you do that, you forfeit rights to it. 2
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 I mean, you gave it to her as a gift. Once you do that, you forfeit rights to it. i remember what i said to her "her you can wear this, its good luck." i didn't say she could have it.
chris21422 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Man come on.. Do you really just want the chain? Or you are using the chain to speak with her.. Let it go bro.. I know the chain and the ex is important to you but just let it go man. You let her have it then you guys broke up then its a package of breaking up. It's not worth breaking the no contact. Get it some other time when you are completely healed and not acting because of anger/emotion. 1
mantlefan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It sounds like you have yourself convinced this chain is more important than speeding up your getting over this girl. I don't know man. I think you gotta be honest about what you really want. If this chain means that much, send her an envelope with a note and some stamps in it. "Hi, I'd like my chain back. Here are some stamps that should cover the postage to mail it. Thank you." It sounds like no one is going to talk you out of trying to get it back, and since you burned bridges with your mutual friends, I'd just make it as simple as you can for her and this should help ensure you get it back. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 i remember what i said to her "her you can wear this, its good luck." i didn't say she could have it. Oh come on. You are definitely doing this to try to get in contact with her. It's painfully obvious. And it's pretty clear that it's not good luck anymore. 2
Haydn Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Cream, forget the chain. Chain forget Cream. Repeat. Good luck? Well if its luck you want then take some of the advice here and things may slide your way. Shes gone. The chain is gone now you should go. Drop out of her sight and mind. It will work wonders for you. 1
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 f*ck it. i don't want to deal with her. i feel like vomiting every time i think of her. she can have it. 4
mantlefan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 There you go. If you got it back, imagine how it would remind you of her, and also how it will remind you of what you had to do to get it back. I think eventually YOU would have gotten rid of it too.
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