Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 so i know my ex hates me and doesn't want to talk to me, but i want my chain back that i let her wear back in the day. she has no use for it and i want it back before she throws it away or gives it away. i should send an email making it like a business deal, so what content should i say??
Simon Phoenix Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 You don't want the chain back, you want to talk to her. It's painfully obvious. The chain is a tool for you to do what you've wanted to do from the jump. 3
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 You don't want the chain back, you want to talk to her. It's painfully obvious. The chain is a tool for you to do what you've wanted to do from the jump. f*ck her. i want my chain back. she's gonna toss it.
legion113 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 so i know my ex hates me and doesn't want to talk to me, but i want my chain back that i let her wear back in the day. she has no use for it and i want it back before she throws it away or gives it away. i should send an email making it like a business deal, so what content should i say?? If she hates you so much that she doesn't even want to talk to you, you think she's not going to hate you enough to give you back a chain?
True Gent Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Do you really want the chain she used to wear?
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 If she hates you so much that she doesn't even want to talk to you, you think she's not going to hate you enough to give you back a chain? its business, emotions should be left out.
legion113 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 its business, emotions should be left out. maybe you can, but she can't, she HATES you remember.
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 last time we argued, she said "you can have all your sh*t back." I don't care about the shirts, paintings I gave her that we're mine, but the chain means a lot, I use to wear it when I played baseball, and I gave it to her because that's what boyfriends do. Now she dumped me and I want it back
legion113 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 last time we argued, she said "you can have all your sh*t back." I don't care about the shirts, paintings I gave her that we're mine, but the chain means a lot, I use to wear it when I played baseball, and I gave it to her because that's what boyfriends do. Now she dumped me and I want it back Fine go for it, tell us how it went
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 i need advice on what to say, without it seeming like i want to talk to her...
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 I want my chain back. Seems pretty simple to me. lol. i mean she's pissed at me already, i don't want to make it like i'm too demanding and an ******* or else she's not going to send it.
mantlefan Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Do you have any mutual friends or acquaintances?
Xemyd Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 lol. i mean she's pissed at me already, i don't want to make it like i'm too demanding and an ******* or else she's not going to send it. My point is, don't over think it. It should be a simple question.
Author Cream Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Do you have any mutual friends or acquaintances? i'm no longer friends with our mutual friends, its hard hearing about what shes doing, so i cut them out of my life.
JDPT Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I the chain icey enough to break NC. Seriously dude, save yourself future grief and let it be. 1
Kilty Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It's simple unless she hates you because you have been pestering her & contacting her regularly since the break up If not Email something like this but it without doubt will set you back as soon as you press send UNLESS you really just want the chain back Hi Sorry for contacting you but is it possible i can have my chain back It's ok if you want to send it by post Thanks
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 OP - I let an engagement ring go. Why? Cuz it wasn't worth the BS / pain / set-back / etc in trying to retrieve it. So, a chain? Was it diamond encrusted? Yeah, let it go. It's tainted anyway. Get another one and build attachment to it... And don't give it to anyone 1
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 OP - I let an engagement ring go. Why? Cuz it wasn't worth the BS / pain / set-back / etc in trying to retrieve it. So, a chain? Was it diamond encrusted? Yeah, let it go. It's tainted anyway. Get another one and build attachment to it... And don't give it to anyone that was an ring that was a symbol of your relationship. this chain i had before i was with my ex. it was like a good luck charm, with sentimental value.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 that was an ring that was a symbol of your relationship. this chain i had before i was with my ex. it was like a good luck charm, with sentimental value. Why would you give your personal good luck charm to someone else? Defeats the point of having one. 1
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Why would you give your personal good luck charm to someone else? Defeats the point of having one. idk, i wasn't thinking. i let her wear it while we were at a baseball game and told her it was good luck. it was back when we were in love... now we mean nothing to each other, so i want it back.
JDPT Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 C.R.E.A.M. let it be, I think I've been provided with a substantial amount of sound advice. Take our time to internalize this. Sleep on it tonight. And if the feelings feel as determined as they do tonight, post again and pick our brains, let us know what you think tomorrow. Don't make any impulsive decisions at this point. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 idk, i wasn't thinking. i let her wear it while we were at a baseball game and told her it was good luck. it was back when we were in love... now we mean nothing to each other, so i want it back. I'd say the charm has lost its luck at this point.
Author Cream Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 C.R.E.A.M. let it be, I think I've been provided with a substantial amount of sound advice. Take our time to internalize this. Sleep on it tonight. And if the feelings feel as determined as they do tonight, post again and pick our brains, let us know what you think tomorrow. Don't make any impulsive decisions at this point. good idea. i'll sleep on it. right now i'm worried she may have gotten rid of it and i've been doing nothing but panicking.
StyleOnEm Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Lesson to be learned: Only give things to your significant other without the intention of ever getting it back.
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