Real36 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 It's been 6 months since I left my ex. It was a tumultuous relationship that ended after I found texts to several other girls on his phone and condoms in his pocket. Although I left him I feel more like someone who was dumped. I have been in so much pain. After I left I did all of things we are told to do post break-up. I've been hanging out with friends, going out, dating others, exercising, going to night school, etc. There for awhile I felt like I was doing so well. Then he started showing up at my work more. I avoided him as much as possible in the beginning but then I started wanting him to show up so that I could see him. I started returning his personal texts in December. Now he has told me that he is moving out of state next week and asked me to hang out last night. I didn't. I went to a friend's house instead and got plastered drunk. So stupid. I should never have started talking to him again. Now I am hungover and heartbroken all over again. I wish this would all be over and could just feel nothing for him. I have a list of reasons not to see him and lies that I have uncovered post-break up on my phone. I look at those lists when I miss him, it works but it makes me re-live the pain all over again too. I know time is the only thing that will heal me but it's been 6 months and I feel like I'm starting the process all over now that he is moving. It's good that he is going so far away, I won't have to see him anymore and maybe it will help me heal a little faster but right now I'm hurting very much.
mendsley Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 It sounds like once you started talking to him again feelings resurfaced. I know this hurts, but him leaving the state is probably the best thing for you. Do you really want someone who you cannot trust in your life? No! You do not! No one does, so you need to cut him off all communication and get back to doing what your were doing to move on. He needs to quit coming to your work, I would figure that out first! Let me ask you something, when you were dating how did you feel? For me once I started dating the pain, emotions and depression seem to subside? I know they say do not date too soon, but if you have already been on dates and you felt good about it, you should start it back up. If you felt like crap dating, then get back to hanging out with friends. The last thing is start an exercise program, I am a firm believer that exercise is the best way to help mend a broken heart. I'm sorry you're going through this pain, but with a little bit of work and self-discipline you will make it through this a stronger person and with better partner. Mike
Author Real36 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Thanks Mike. This whole thing has just brought the old pain back up the last few days. I hate having to re-live the hurt because of my foolishness in talking to him. Him leaving the state is best and I should never have let my unresolved feelings for him over ride my common sense. I don't want to get back together with him I just want him to miss me and feel like he messed up. I know that's childish. I am currently dating, casually.
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