MissNoname Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Would you tell your gf you are going on a trip with friends before you go or you just planned the trip and go without letting her know?
Sand Man Dan Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 (edited) I would let her know where I'm going, who ill be with, when I'm coming back, and will contact her regularly while gone. Because any less is immature and disrespectful, at least for me it would be. Edited January 4, 2014 by Sand Man Dan 7
ihavegonecrazy Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Would you tell your gf you are going on a trip with friends before you go or you just planned the trip and go without letting her know? If you want a gf still,then tell her.Worst thing you can do is not tell her 1
MrMeh Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Why would you not tell her? Are you in a distant relationship?
what_a_blonde Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I would let her know where I'm going, who ill be with, when I'm coming back, and will contact her regularly while gone. Because any less is immature and disrespectful, at least for me it would be. Agree with this ^^^^ **ALSO** I think it depends on how long you guys have been dating. If you guys have been dating less than a month or two, he might have not thought right away to let you know. After 2 months or more of dating, he should be involving you in his life and always considering you, no excuses. Not saying I don't think this is important in the first month of dating, however men take a little longer to catch onto things, so I'd give him some amnesty for a slip up like this if its early on, assuming he'll learn from it and not do it again. ETA: That is only for the "booking the trip and not telling her ahead of time". If he just leaves on a guy trip and doesn't even tell her.... that's not cool. What's to hide?
Author MissNoname Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Im not sure if he went on a trip with his friends but I texted him and called him this morning and no reply yet. I remember one of his friends saying his off for a few days and mentioned wanting to go on a trip this weekend. Im thinking he might have gone without telling me. Weve been dating for almost three months and in a relationship for three weeks.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Im not sure if he went on a trip with his friends but I texted him and called him this morning and no reply yet. I remember one of his friends saying his off for a few days and mentioned wanting to go on a trip this weekend. Im thinking he might have gone without telling me. Weve been dating for almost three months and in a relationship for three weeks. That would be a dealbreaker for me. If he actually did that, it says a lot about your position in his life. 4
GoreSP Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Im not sure if he went on a trip with his friends but I texted him and called him this morning and no reply yet. I remember one of his friends saying his off for a few days and mentioned wanting to go on a trip this weekend. Im thinking he might have gone without telling me. Weve been dating for almost three months and in a relationship for three weeks. Well he could have at least told you he was gone for the week end… What an ass...
Author MissNoname Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Well he could have at least told you he was gone for the week end… What an ass... Im not sure tho Im just assuming at this point. Ive called him twice and he did not pick up. His text this morning just said he will be busy this weekend. I dont know what to do at this point. I really want to talk to him to know whats going on. Im a little pissed that he hasnt replied but at the same time worried hoping he's ok. If incase he went on a trip without telling me, should I dumped him?
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If you have only been officially dating for three whole weeks, he really isn't at a point where he needs to clear his schedule with you. It would have been the polite thing to do but if you didn't already have plans, he was free to do what he wanted. You need to improve your communication & make him understand your expectations but at this early stage, I wouldn't write him off already.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Im not sure tho Im just assuming at this point. Ive called him twice and he did not pick up. His text this morning just said he will be busy this weekend. I dont know what to do at this point. I really want to talk to him to know whats going on. Im a little pissed that he hasnt replied but at the same time worried hoping he's ok. If incase he went on a trip without telling me, should I dumped him? Hold on you have been calling him and he responds with an "I will be busy" TEXT? That's so inconsiderate. That's like you're trying to vie for his attention. Such disrespect.
Author MissNoname Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Im just hurt that he didnt check with me first before making plans on weekends. Lately weve been spending weekends together. Worst is he just sent a text this morning not even stating specifically what hes plan is for today. Then no reply to my texts and calls. Im upset and worried at the same time. Hes bad with phone, if I text and I did not get a reply then I ring his phone and he picks up. But this time he did not.
Author MissNoname Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Hold on you have been calling him and he responds with an "I will be busy" TEXT? That's so inconsiderate. That's like you're trying to vie for his attention. Such disrespect. No he only texted once this morning to reply to a text I sent last night to confirm if he would still have dinner with my family. He said yes but he will be busy this weekend. I replied to that text and no answer after a few hours I called him and he did not pick up. I texted him twice and called twice but still no answer and its been 7 hours already.
TB Rhine Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 She said they've been dating for 3 months, "in a relationship" for 3 weeks. To me, once you've passed that relationship-status marker (which I'm assuming means that you are "officially" boyfriend and girlfriend at this point), it becomes mandatory to keep the other person apprised of what is going on in your life - job changes, major life decisions, deaths in the family, etc. If it's the norm for the two of you to spend the weekend together and he disappears without letting you know what's going on, I would say that is inappropriate. Sounds like he let you know that he'd be busy over the weekend - how brusque was he about it? If it was just a quick text message that didn't provide any details, I'd say that sounds pretty dismissive. Did you write/call back and request more details? If he's being nonresponsive or evasive, that's just insensitive, and you need to think about whether you feel like putting up with that in the future. 2
TylerDurdenn Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Treat her as you wish to be treated yourself.
eleve82 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 My live in bf of 5 years "forgot" to tell me he was going on a trip with his boys while i was out of town and I found out from his friends at a party. He also couldn't care less when I returned from my trip. I dumped his ass the day I found out.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I can't imagine a 3 months relationship where he doesn't tell you that he is going on a trip. You guys don't sound very close. And blowing you off for the whole weekend with vague "I am busy" and then doesn't answer his phone? I hope you are not gonna let that s-t fly OP. 2
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