mantlefan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I am a regretful person. Sometimes my motivation is to do things not because they are right, but because I don't want to regret. You can't do anything about the things you regret. But really, if you wake up and you are still hurting over your girlfriend, you will regret the time you wasted hurting over her someday. Its OK to hurt. There is no shame in that, no regret, unless the hurt stops you from living your life. Get out and do things. Double your effort to your job. Find a hobby, volunteer, bake, cook, take piano lessons. How am I getting out of the rut? Committing to NC, applying like a madman for jobs all over the country, working out, going out of my way to hang out with people, being more patient with my family, and trying to remember the importance of my faith at a time where I sometimes just want to be hopeless. Yes, I still relapse in all of this. But I am better at all of these things than I was before the breakup.
Author conmorse Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I am a regretful person. Sometimes my motivation is to do things not because they are right, but because I don't want to regret. You can't do anything about the things you regret. But really, if you wake up and you are still hurting over your girlfriend, you will regret the time you wasted hurting over her someday. Its OK to hurt. There is no shame in that, no regret, unless the hurt stops you from living your life. Get out and do things. Double your effort to your job. Find a hobby, volunteer, bake, cook, take piano lessons. How am I getting out of the rut? Committing to NC, applying like a madman for jobs all over the country, working out, going out of my way to hang out with people, being more patient with my family, and trying to remember the importance of my faith at a time where I sometimes just want to be hopeless. Yes, I still relapse in all of this. But I am better at all of these things than I was before the breakup. Thanks Mantlefan. I have been hanging out with friends and going out on weekends, hitting the gym, but despite all my efforts i still have downtime in between and thats where my thoughts start to surface 1
mantlefan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Well, if that happens (for me it is early in the morning before the alarm goes off and I feel too lazy and tired to stop myself) Makes sure you have a good cry then and only then. Get all the hurt out of you then, and when you are out working, with friends, or having fun, and that crap pops up, try to save it for the time you can't find something else to do. I think eventually you will get sick of it. I am still majorly heartbroken but I am getting sick of it. I don't like being like this. For awhile, I felt like if I hurt enough, she would come back. Now I want to be done with my hurt, but I still need to accept it is real.
Author conmorse Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Same thing happens to me, everyone I wake up a flood of thoughts and emotions come rushing in and i can't help but think about it... It's just not fair how we get the short end of the stick, and I can't help but feel like blaming myself sometimes even though I know it's not my fault.
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