Do only the healthy and fit get to be in fulfilling relationships?

[polynomial]

Seems to be the case..

[Eau Claire]

Of course not. However the better we take care of ourselves....lead a healthy lifestyle, the more likely everything in life is better.

 

Is is better to be healthy and fit than not healthy a fed fit...certainly

[jba10582]

plenty of fat couples everywhere, especially if you live in a first world country

[polynomial]

Of course not. However the better we take care of ourselves....lead a healthy lifestyle, the more likely everything in life is better.

 

Is is better to be healthy and fit than not healthy a fed fit...certainly

 

yes but there are illnesses that one has no control over.. and they can be quite limiting to a person.. & it just feels like if you're not in perfect health best not even dream of a relationship or the other person would be unhappy with you.

[carhill]

Caution against using generalities and perceptions of appearance to determine 'healthy' and 'fit', relative to 'fulfilling relationships'.

 

Appearances can be deceiving.

 

IME, having made this error in the past, many times, I came to understand far better the lack of correlation between what I perceive in that regard and what reality is.

 

The vast gamut of human conditions and individuals can have fulfilling relationships, and have been throughout time.

 

As I'm watching an old racing movie from the mid-60's right now, I can opine that life is not a movie. Good luck.

[HokeyReligions]

plenty of fat couples everywhere, especially if you live in a first world country

 

Not all fat people are unhealthy or unfit.

[jba10582]

Not all fat people are unhealthy or unfit.

 

plenty of couples that smoke, eat unhealthy foods, have high stress jobs, drink a lot that are together and married. know any?

[polynomial]

Not all fat people are unhealthy or unfit.

 

yeah I don't see fat as unhealthy cuz I ain't seen their medical chart.

 

This thread wasn't started with physical appereance in mind.

 

I'm just having trouble accepting my own back pain and how much it may affect my future sex life. And it makes me sad knowing that my future partner may be unhappy with his Rs with because of this, because isn't it better to just find someone healthier instead?

[Mrlonelyone]

Caution against using generalities and perceptions of appearance to determine 'healthy' and 'fit', relative to 'fulfilling relationships'.

 

Appearances can be deceiving.

 

IME, having made this error in the past, many times, I came to understand far better the lack of correlation between what I perceive in that regard and what reality is.

 

The vast gamut of human conditions and individuals can have fulfilling relationships, and have been throughout time.

 

As I'm watching an old racing movie from the mid-60's right now, I can opine that life is not a movie. Good luck.

 

 

This so much this.

 

 

I will add. The healthy and fit are more likely to get into relationships due to being more attractive than the unhealthy and unfit. More so for those who are healthy and fit due to good genes.

 

 

Being in a relationship =/=> being full filled by that relationship. In fact the about 50% divorce rate at 7 years...indicates that most people in relationships are simply compromising at least most of the time. Most non-marriage relationships are likely much worse than the marriages because they don't even go the distance.

 

 

All that glitters is not gold.

[Arieswoman]

Not at all.

 

An ex-neighbour of mine married a girl who had MS. He knew that when he was dating her. She is now in a wheelchair.

 

Now and again my husband and I meet them for lunch.

 

They seem happy to me, chatting, laughing, joking.

 

He works as an electrician in his own business, she doesn't work any more.

 

It all looks good to me.

[Copelandsanity]

Doing the things to be healthy and fit - exercising everyday, playing sports, learning new physical activities - naturally leads to greater confidence, a happier state of mind, an improved appearance, and more social opportunities to take advantage of. These benefits can only help someone attain a fulfilling relationship, especially with the couple being healthy and active together.

[carhill]

This thread wasn't started with physical appereance in mind.

 

If so, then IMO a more appropriate venue to post it would be a medical forum for doctors to offer their opinions, since, other than the people themselves, their medical professionals are the only ones who know for sure how healthy and fit they are. We laypeople make judgments on health and fitness every day based on how we are socialized and integrated into our peer groups and on society's pronouncements of what healthy and fit are, primarily and especially in those moments of first encounter, on what we see, hence physicality.

 

As an example, I might see a man in a wheelchair and make presumptions about his health which have no basis in fact. The same for a beautiful model or athlete.

 

In fact a young lady I saw just last weekend whom I know pretty well who is now a retired fitness model has a laundry list of health problems she's shared with me, some serious, and most 'going back' to the days where she had to/chose to conform to the parameters of what fitness modeling required. Beautiful young lady, only mid-20's, with life-long health issues to face essentially because she had the genetics and appearance to take 'fitness' to its ultimate perception. The average person would think she's healthy and fit and will make lovely babies and have a perfect marriage. In reality, there are no guarantees.

[Eau Claire]

yes but there are illnesses that one has no control over.. and they can be quite limiting to a person.. & it just feels like if you're not in perfect health best not even dream of a relationship or the other person would be unhappy with you.

 

Why did you start the thread? My answer was that in general 'yes'.

 

You have a physical issue. I'm an RN and see and care fore a dozen individuals a day who have a health issue. The issue is usually specific. No reason they can't lead a fit and healthy lifestyle in the other 95% of their life...if fact it is even MORE important to do so.

 

Have you done everything possible to improve your health? It becomes cliche but it still holds that if you don't care enough about yourself to make yourself the best you can be within your limitations, then why would you expect someone else to get involved? Control the things you can control.

[jba10582]

..and even back pain doesn't exactly translate into unhealthy and unfit if were going off semantics and what it means to everyone. I did a google image search of the terms healthy and fit just to see what images would be conjured up. I got pictures of slender people doing yoga, riding bikes, a picture with an apple and a weights, a person running, a woman with before and after photos of losing weight and preconceived notions of something that may mean something completely different in a dictionary.

 

A buddy of mine was paralyzed from the waist down in a motor cycle accident and is in a current long term relationship.

 

Similarly, the dad of an old roommate from college was married and was also paralyzed from the waist down.

 

So I hope this is interpreted more correctly now, versus a preconceived notions as to what healthy and fit actually mean to each person.

[gaius]

Being overweight or obese can often be a sign of not wanting a satisfying relationship. There's been articles recently about how weight loss centers have started including therapy as part of their routine since they're finding a shockingly high percentage of obese people have a history of sexual abuse.

[polynomial]

Why did you start the thread? My answer was that in general 'yes'.

 

You have a physical issue. I'm an RN and see and care fore a dozen individuals a day who have a health issue. The issue is usually specific. No reason they can't lead a fit and healthy lifestyle in the other 95% of their life...if fact it is even MORE important to do so.

 

Have you done everything possible to improve your health? It becomes cliche but it still holds that if you don't care enough about yourself to make yourself the best you can be within your limitations, then why would you expect someone else to get involved? Control the things you can control.

 

I am dealig with my issue, yes, guess ive jyst been depressed lately hence the thread. thank yiu all for your replies though, i appriciate them.

[MissBee]

Seems to be the case..

 

No.

 

Being healthy and fit physically doesn't mean you're emotionally healthy or have good relationship skills. Maybe you will attract more people but that doesn't speak to the quality neither does it say anything about your own mentality and relationship skills.

 

Good looking and fit is good looking and fit....some of the worst people are good looking and fit and some of the people who can't sustain a good relationship are also good looking and fit while some people who may not be fit or that good looking may be in genuinely loving LTRs.