newmoon Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 question for the guys... have you ever landed your 'dream girl' - even if it was just for a few dates, and did it live up to your expectations? (i.e. the kissing, dating, sex, being with her, etc.) or was the fantasy/idea of her far better than the reality?
GemmaUK Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I think I was someone's dream girl. It was bizarre though. He had me on a pedestal and turned out to be controlling..which I idn't give in to..so he just picked on me for this and that and thing after thing. I remember him telling me that he showed photos of me to friends and family and they said (so he told me) .How did you get her? (thi sounds up myself..bear with me for a bit..). I much later discovered that he had taken a load of photos I had let him see from when I was in my twenties (20 years ago) and they were modelling type shots. (nothing crude & I was fully clothed & covered) He had them on his laptop, his phone and in his truck..he was a trucker. I had n no idea he had them in these places until several months in to dating him. I think these were the photos he was showing to folk and also those he was focusing on (we were LDR). Sometime after we split and he unfriended me on FB all of these photos (20 or so) were public on his FB profile. It took months of asking until he finally took them off. His dream girl was me..but I didn't behave correctly and had my own mind but also..I wasn't she who was in the pics. I had grown up.
Onethirtyeight Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Yes and no. She was really attractive, we had a lot of similar interests, and thought she was nice. Turns out she was total pain in the ass and I ended up breaking up with her. At the time though I was really impressed with myself.
ThaWholigan Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Never dated my dream girl - however, I get the feeling there will be a few new dream girls in the future.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Time to rock out to Bobby Darin: ♫ 'Cause I want, a girl, to call, my own I want a dream lover, so I don't have to dream alone ♫ Unfortunately no, I have not had the opportunity to date my dream girl, because she only exists in my dreams. There were two girls that came close to being a dream, but then reality hit. They had too much baggage.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Every girl I've dated has been my dream girl at the time. Every guy I've dated has been my dream boy at the time. By those I mean, I've always consistently done better with each relationship. Like I am converging on a real dream tiny step by tiny step. Seeing what I like and don't like and not wasting any time on people who I know by experience cannot be right for me.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 She doesn't exist except in my head That's why I will always be dating myself.
DonnyBeGood Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I was with my dream girl once. It didn't end well. The idea of my ideal girl started in a forbidden fruit type situation. I had a girlfriend and it was getting to be a toxic relationship. A professor at school told me that a girl in one of his classes had read something I had written and expressed a lot of interest in meeting the guy who wrote it. I talked to her and it was clear that she was attracted to me. I wanted her very badly because I was in a bad relationship so there was a 'grass is greener' type of feeling. I figured everything with her would be perfect compared to the moody distant feeling I was going home to. Years later I was still with the girlfriend I had been with at that time and we had gone through some good and bad times. Often during the bad times I'd think of what could have been had I left her and tried to be with the girl from college. We broke up and I quickly met a girl who reminded me a lot of the girl from school. They were the same size and shape, had awesome tattoo's, were creative artist types. They'd even say some of the same things the same way. So naturally, being newly single and meeting this girl who reminded me of someone I had an unexplored crush on was powerful. I started dating her and she treated me like a king. The sex was amazing. Every time we hung out it was so much fun. We were constantly doing kind things for one another, out of the blue. It turned out later on that she was in a deep depression at the time. I was newly single and not sure how dating would go so a part of the attraction for me was that I felt so attractive and like a catch that shortly after one relationship was over this girl was so thrilled to be with me. She told me she had a crush on me the first time she had seen me months ago even though we hadn't talked for months after that. I was her ideal man physically and in how I dressed and carried myself. She had told friends about seeing me back then and the way she described me and how excited she was about me made them remember me when they met me months later after we were seeing one another. She even admitted that the seemingly random way we had met and actually talked the first time was something she had put together in the hopes that I would end up talking to her. We lived in the same building and she was taking photos of a shadow outside my door and it blocked me from coming home from work (long exposure) so I stood and talked with her while she apologized. When she saw how much I didn't care that she was holding me up from going inside then it let her know that I liked her company so we ended up hanging out after that. We were crazy about each other. But eventually it came to the point that she admitted to me that she didn't really see us as an item for a long term. We found out our differences as well and she didn't think we belonged together. Since she had been very depressed before she met me I had kind of propped her up and gave her the buzz that a new relationship gives a person. Walking on clouds. But in the end she needed to sort out her issues on her own and be an individual who was happy alone before dating would be a good idea. Separating was hard because we had no reason not to be friends. But old habits,, we'd end up back together for days or weeks at a time. Then we'd break up again, for the same reason. It started to really become a cycle of feeling elated and then getting deflated again. It took it's toll and I started to resent her. I can't regret it but it still effects me to this day. She died in an accident and because of the impact she had on me, I grieved her so hard my current girlfriend carries a lot of jealousy. She saw how much it took out of me to lose her and she felt like I loved my ex more than I loved her. We had started seeing each other and about two months into it, while still in the honeymoon phase with lots of good times to go before our first arguments or other realities struck, I became a wreck for about a week while I was going to the funeral and talking about her all the time. It took attention off of her and she grew to feel like I had this perfect relationship with someone else and she'd never add up to that. But missing someone who died is not easy and I didn't know how to hold back things I felt I needed to vent. Also, having felt hypnotized by the 'perfect girl' I went into my current relationship with more of a realism that I shouldn't be so blinded by someone until I really get to know them. So I think my current girlfriend feels like I had a better time with my ex than I do with her. But really I value what I have now more -because- it's more realistic. Feeling like someone is perfect ignores their flaws, it dehumanizes them. I see my current girlfriend as a real person, not a dream girl. I think it's better that way. But what can you say, all girls want to be idolized on some level. For ever action there is an equal and opposite reaction I suppose. Some of the most happy ethereal moments of my life were with my ex. It took a few months to finally allow myself to remember the things about her that made me angry or when she mistreated me. Being able to tell my current girlfriend things like that without me getting hypersensitive that she'll say something insulting about her kind of helped her to realize that I didn't mean to view her as my dream girl, put her on a pedestal, compare her with my current relationship etc. It was just a moment of weakness from a guy who got out of a long relationship, felt unsure, and then someone comes in like a bolt of lightening and makes everything better,, for a while. I wouldn't be surprised if there are a lot of guys who were with a girl and at the time were convinced it was their 'dream girl' but once they broke up, missed her so much and wanted it back so much they got angry with her and all the sudden she wasn't so special anymore because the anger or jealousy took over. 2
charlietheginger Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Every girl I've dated has been my dream girl at the time. Every guy I've dated has been my dream boy at the time. By those I mean, I've always consistently done better with each relationship. Like I am converging on a real dream tiny step by tiny step. Seeing what I like and don't like and not wasting any time on people who I know by experience cannot be right for me. You have the best of both worlds being able to date women and men... I like women physically but don't click with many personality wise a lot have baggage bitchy attitudes and are a pain to deal with... I have gay male friends that are happy in love and get along great I hate to come to the rational that homosexuality is a choice but I think for many guys it is.... guys don't play games gossip or cuase drama or want to be waited to or put on a pedestal .... I know a lot of men after divorces that want love and explore the gay route and they totally love it... some don't even have sex just two guys having brother like companionship living together paying bills together wear each others clothes and spend so much time together they fall in love.. this is how a gay male couple I met got together they were roomies that had girlfriends and threesomes and eventually relized they liked each other so much they just made themselves a couple and on occasion brought home women 1
Grumpybutfun Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I married her. She is still that girl. G 4
GoodOnPaper Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Never dated -- or even met -- a "dream girl". In retrospect, I realize that because the meeting/attraction phase of dating was so difficult for me, I tended to focus on getting the relationship. I did have a "dream relationship" -- my first LTR. Best intimacy I ever experienced. But we were young and as I was the first guy she ever dated, the urge to find out what else was out there became too hard for her to resist.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 question for the guys... have you ever landed your 'dream girl' - even if it was just for a few dates, and did it live up to your expectations? (i.e. the kissing, dating, sex, being with her, etc.) or was the fantasy/idea of her far better than the reality? Yeah. I didn't know she was my dream girl until we actually hung out/dated/whatever. The conversations and hangouts and stuff were better than I could have imagined. Unfortunately it didn't work out. Never kissed or anything like that either...
ffw Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I don't have a dream girl, realistically speaking. Personally, I observed I have been attracted to wide range of girls with different attributes to match.
regine_phalange Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I married her. She is still that girl. G Posts like this are very comforting to read and make me happy. Blindly believing in something and then having some evidence that it does exist, indeed makes me happy. 2
lino Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Yes I did. She's the one who led me to find this website. More than lived up to my expectations. She didn't feelthe same about me tthough 1
slightly_unusual Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 question for the guys... have you ever landed your 'dream girl' - even if it was just for a few dates, and did it live up to your expectations? (i.e. the kissing, dating, sex, being with her, etc.) or was the fantasy/idea of her far better than the reality? no but im not good looking enough to date models luckily for me if I have strong feelings for a girl , she becomes beautiful to me automatically even other people view her as average
mutualove Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 So far i think i have.Only time can prove me wrong.I hope i'm wrong...
Mrlonelyone Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Sorta. I have a world where many people are attracted but they aren't brave enough to tell people about it. What I will say is this. My female friends wonder why I would ever bother with women. They say women are catty, insecure, petty, and mainpulative with eachother... Men don't do any of that. It's like this... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypWaLxo32mE Men, we know how to be friends. My dream girl would be a tomboy , maybe even a little butch, who's really comfortable with herself and comfortable with standing out and not caring what people may say about her sexuality or gender behavior. She's gotten over that, yet, does not hypocritically demand that a man should adhere to male gender stereotypes. In some way or the other every woman I've described here before (S, E, and M, even that teacher I had something with in HS) have been just that. You have the best of both worlds being able to date women and men... I like women physically but don't click with many personality wise a lot have baggage bitchy attitudes and are a pain to deal with... I have gay male friends that are happy in love and get along great I hate to come to the rational that homosexuality is a choice but I think for many guys it is.... guys don't play games gossip or cuase drama or want to be waited to or put on a pedestal .... I know a lot of men after divorces that want love and explore the gay route and they totally love it... some don't even have sex just two guys having brother like companionship living together paying bills together wear each others clothes and spend so much time together they fall in love.. this is how a gay male couple I met got together they were roomies that had girlfriends and threesomes and eventually relized they liked each other so much they just made themselves a couple and on occasion brought home women
TintedChrome Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 About 10 years ago at a fancy fundraising party I thought I met the woman of my dreams. Six feet tall, gorgeous, confident blonde model type. I just walked up to her and said somethingorother. She was so glad I was talking to her. After a while she gave me her phone number without me even asking. I told a friend that I had just met the mother of my children. We had a couple of dinner dates, and that was it. Completely fizzled. We were completely incompatible. I wasn't too broken up about it though. No great loss. Just goes to show you, lust at first sight doesn't necessarily grow into squat. 1
eotdevice Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 She was the girl from high school I always wanted. Never acted on it though. 20 years after graduating I met her again and we were both coming out of bad ltr's. It was amazing, we built each other up and had an amazing connection, like none other I ever had before or since. Unfortunately after 2 years it fizzled out. She drank way too much and would'nt stop for me or her 3 year old child. She was also very depressed. She ended up pulling away from me and I ended it. I have my regrets. But met her again recently after not seeing her for a year and I thought to myself, "What did you see in this woman?" She was still very nice, great conversation, but she was no longer on that pedestal. It was an enlightening moment. I now realize anyone I love can be that dream girl. You just need to treat each other that way. 1
Phoe Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 my boyfriend has, a few times, called me his dream girl and more. That on an imaginary checklist of everything he could want in a girl, he can now put a check mark by everything. It may or may not be true but it's incredibly sweet of him, and it makes me happy to know that I make him so happy. I never had a "dream guy", never had a list of ideals, but everything about him makes me absolutely ecstatic. I now have a dream guy, never woulda thought it! I couldn't have imagined a guy who's better for me. 3
Shepp Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'm dating her Haha gotta say right from 15 years old it she was my dream girl. The checklists you draw up with all your 'must haves', they were her, they were always her. Live up to my expectations? More than
MasonJarTeaDrinker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Currently Sleeping with her , she's so damn hot, she's super cool and I love the way she smells, I could literally smell her all damn day. However she's not all mine, she's got a Girlfriend so I can't really do much I don't expect her to leave her for me since they have been together forever but it's been a whole year and she's still around so I'll keep getting it while it lasts. Honestly I would look at her and think to myself damn I would love to do her and the sex is much better than I thought it would be. We could talk all night and just hang out, whenever we get the time. So yes it was just as good as I thought it would be, some parts are even better. Also the confident boost I get from landing a female like that helps out a ton.
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