d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Big NAY! They either don't care enough about the process to post which means they aren't serious. or They have major insecurities about their own appearance & I don't have time to play shrink. The visual aspect of attraction is an important component of chemistry too. You wouldn't talk to somebody with a bag over their head in a bar (except maybe on Halloween) so it's ridiculous to think no photo is the way to go on-line. We have evolved past the short personal ads in newspapers & in the back of magazines.
rocketman122 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Some may be embarrassed to post their pics. and I did have women who straight asked if I want to see pics of them, they can send to my email. but it was very suspicious then and now. maybe married, or psycho exBF staling them. who knows. not exactly my cup of tea. it also puts you in an awkward situation because it shows shallowness. why? if she sends you the pics and shes attractive then yes, and if not, then no. but, everyone wants to date someone attractive. and if you say "no thank you" then you confirming they simply arent attractive to you. but I dont like it because you are transparent and open and they are hidden and being a bit deceiving.
newmoon Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 gigantic NAY! perhaps 10 years ago it was cool, but now..absolutely not. they are hiding for one reason or another and not seriously invested in the process.
GemmaUK Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 (edited) I'm currently on an OLD site which has a forum (not POF though - a UK based one). I have no thumbnail pic but I do have photos in my profile however it states clearly that I'm not looking right now. I have in the past replied to no photos (only twice ever), been told I would not be disappointed, only to be not attracted to either man. I now don't take any interest in those with no photos. To be honest it feels a bit like the guy who wants to befriend a woman to get a foot in the door. This only works if she is attracted and sees him as more than a friend. Without any attraction physically dating is very unlikely. Edited to add: There was one other guy who wanted to email me photos so I created an email address for that purpose - he got angry with me as he realised it was not my real email addy! Lol! Edited January 4, 2014 by GemmaUK
Eau Claire Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 When I was on OLD those profiles might as well not of existed. They were background annoyance. I suppose that a woman in a smaller town, city might want a bit of anonymity for some legitimate reason. If a man's profile is without a photo...other women can have him all they want. Too many red flags. A woman may be setting herself up for issues if she has any contact with him.
Targetlock Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Did have a situation like this last year, talking to this nice girl for a while but who wouldn't send me a pic of themselves but said it would be a surprise when we met!! and no we never did meet, she suddenly stopped talking to me after a while.
MissBee Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If you have no picture you're not gonna be that successful, but if I were doing OLD right now I wouldn't want to have my picture up for all and every person to see and find for privacy reasons. I wouldn't have a problem messaging a man I'm interested in and emailing him my pictures and if a man messaged me and said he would prefer to email me a picture/skype vs. have his picture up publicly for privacy sake, I'd be able to understand that. However with no picture it is hard to get to that point even, but hey, that would prove to me that a man genuinely read my profile and found what I had to say interesting if he still messages me although I have no picture. But the picture does make sure at least attraction is there initially which is easier than talking first then being surprised at the person's looks. But if I did the no picture thing I would immediately send my picture via email after receiving the first message or two.
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