plethora Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 This is pure nosiness, just wondered what others opinions are. Would you be okay with your partner having friends that could be attracted to them but that your partner is not orientated to? (Eg straight husband having a gay male friend/lesbian partner having a straight male friend?)
carhill Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Would you be okay with your partner having friends that could be attracted to them but that your partner is not orientated to? Yep, and did while married. ExW had a number of lesbian friends. I enjoyed them immensely. One ended up helping me with some chores while I was caregiving. Great lady. I see it the same as any other friendship. As long as boundaries are maintained and the friend is a friend of the R/M, then it's all good.
d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 It's all about boundaries. Whether the person is the same sex or the opposite sex from my partner as long as my partner makes it's clear that he is off the market. 2
William Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 One of our hydras (previously banned members) showed up so left a bit of a wasteland in the aftermath. Please continue and our apologies for that.
Silly_Girl Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 It's all about boundaries. Whether the person is the same sex or the opposite sex from my partner as long as my partner makes it's clear that he is off the market. I agree. Sexual orientation is irrelevant. That can be fluid or a grey area. If the person who is important to you has good boundaries then there's no issue.
MissBee Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) This is pure nosiness, just wondered what others opinions are. Would you be okay with your partner having friends that could be attracted to them but that your partner is not orientated to? (Eg straight husband having a gay male friend/lesbian partner having a straight male friend?) If my spouse is not gay and has a gay friend why would I be concerned? It would be just like him having any other male friend as his orientation hasn't changed and HIS orientation is what matters. Overall, with any friendship, be it with someone he could be attracted to (a woman) or not, as others have said it's about boundaries. I do not believe in banning people from having friends neither do I believe that when you're in a relationship you can't/shouldn't have opposite sex friendships ---I simply believe that you need to have a proper boundaries and your friends should also be friends of the couple as a unit. Edited January 5, 2014 by MissBee
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