Strwbry Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 LDR for a year. Together for two. He broke up a few months ago due to issues on his end. He said he just couldn't commit to me and was busy. He wanted to focus on himself. It was a clean break up. No cheating or deceit involved. It just seemed like I wasn't the girl for him. A few weeks ago he contacted me and I hesitantly responded. I still have feelings for him. He told me that he was sorry and wanted to try one more time. He explained that he wasn't dating, was in a better place, and could actually get serious with me. I decided to give him a chance. Like I said, no huge blunders happened. It just wasn't the right time for him. So I tell him I want to do this and he buys plane tickets to visit me. Later that day, he tells me he's going on a small trip with his friends in a few hours. We were talking about that for a bit and then he just didn't respond. I assume he was busy because he getting ready to leave. I told him to text me when he gets back the next day. Well this was a few days ago and he never did. Stupidly I check his Facebook (I don't have one but his is pretty public) and he was liking/commenting a few things. Hes definitely okay and back in his city. I just don't get it. We're back together due to his actions and he doesn't even get in touch with me. What is this? I don't know if I should wait to hear from him or call/text saying something. I already sent him the last message telling him to text me when he's back. A text takes no effort. It's like he doesn't even care. Hasn't even checked in on me. What should I do?
David87 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 LDR for a year. Together for two. He broke up a few months ago due to issues on his end. He said he just couldn't commit to me and was busy. He wanted to focus on himself. It was a clean break up. No cheating or deceit involved. It just seemed like I wasn't the girl for him. A few weeks ago he contacted me and I hesitantly responded. I still have feelings for him. He told me that he was sorry and wanted to try one more time. He explained that he wasn't dating, was in a better place, and could actually get serious with me. I decided to give him a chance. Like I said, no huge blunders happened. It just wasn't the right time for him. So I tell him I want to do this and he buys plane tickets to visit me. Later that day, he tells me he's going on a small trip with his friends in a few hours. We were talking about that for a bit and then he just didn't respond. I assume he was busy because he getting ready to leave. I told him to text me when he gets back the next day. Well this was a few days ago and he never did. Stupidly I check his Facebook (I don't have one but his is pretty public) and he was liking/commenting a few things. Hes definitely okay and back in his city. I just don't get it. We're back together due to his actions and he doesn't even get in touch with me. What is this? I don't know if I should wait to hear from him or call/text saying something. I already sent him the last message telling him to text me when he's back. A text takes no effort. It's like he doesn't even care. Hasn't even checked in on me. What should I do? Ignore him and go for NC, he wanted to be sure that you are still hooked, and that you still have feelings for him. If he wants you back then he should be at your doorstep right about now , but he isn't.
Author Strwbry Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Ignore him and go for NC, he wanted to be sure that you are still hooked, and that you still have feelings for him. If he wants you back then he should be at your doorstep right about now , but he isn't. I know. Should I ask, though? To make sure he didn't lose his phone or was really, really busy or something dumb?
headinthecloud Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Don't contact him at all. He dumped you, pleads with you to take him back and then goes AWOL but is updating social media and keeping his friends in the loop. Don't be a doormat. Walk away. If he really wants you back then he will make you the priority. Don't be needy or clingy...go out and live your life....you don't need him to make you happy. A partner should complement your life, not dictate it..
Author Strwbry Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Don't contact him at all. He dumped you, pleads with you to take him back and then goes AWOL but is updating social media and keeping his friends in the loop. Don't be a doormat. Walk away. If he really wants you back then he will make you the priority. Don't be needy or clingy...go out and live your life....you don't need him to make you happy. A partner should complement your life, not dictate it.. I get that, but he sent me the ticket confirmation.
KatZee Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Yeah, just walk at this point. He dumped you, and then it was his idea to get back together. He should be bending over backwards FOR YOU, not the other way around. Do not chase him. Do not contact him. Do not ask him where he's been. Do not get angry at him for not reaching out when he returned. Let HIS actions do the talking here. Back off 100% and watch what he does. If he doesn't contact you, then just completely fade out of his life. 1
Author Strwbry Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Yeah, just walk at this point. He dumped you, and then it was his idea to get back together. He should be bending over backwards FOR YOU, not the other way around. Do not chase him. Do not contact him. Do not ask him where he's been. Do not get angry at him for not reaching out when he returned. Let HIS actions do the talking here. Back off 100% and watch what he does. If he doesn't contact you, then just completely fade out of his life. Yeah. I just don't get what the hell he's doing. I'm afraid if I do this and go NC/not move on, maybe it was something with his phone. A lot of people lost service but I don't know.
rosedl Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 If he wanted to contact you, he would. Even if he lost his phone....If he is on facebook, he could send you a message with contact information...He could call you from another phone....if he really was into you, hell, he would send smoke signals! Low commitment men and commitment phobes. Not wise choices for a relationship and hopeless to pursue, they like to have their back ups and they like to keep their options open. Count yourself lucky that he revealed himself so quickly. I just went through another nine months of hell with a commitment phobe who took me on the full ride again and then....shocking....left. It is simply what these type of people do.
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Yeah. I just don't get what the hell he's doing. I'm afraid if I do this and go NC/not move on, maybe it was something with his phone. A lot of people lost service but I don't know. Men will find a way to contact a woman they want to contact, even if their phone goes kaput. Don't call him.
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