Ladies what type of message do u like to see from a guy you are attracted to when he

[BlametheIrish]

I was led to believe that the first message to a woman needed to be reflective, etc. I tried an experiment for a period and simply wrote:

 

"Hi, let me know if you'd like to chat."

 

It turned out that the success of return responses of interest were just as high AND required far less energy, creativity on my part.

 

I am not sure how to take the explanation from women who say that they want something creative, or evidence that the guy has read the profile after that experiment.

 

Take it like this, different woman like different approaches. I assume a guy who looked at my pic and messaged me did it because he liked the way I looked. A guy who actually read my profile and asked a question pertaining to it tells me he's interested in more than.a pretty face, he actually wants to.get to know me, not just sex me up

 

I realize it doesnt always go.that way but Ive had much luck with that approach. Me and my by will be togetjer for a year in.early March. Met him on OKC

Ive also.had a 3 year relationship off of OLD too. My options arent limited in person but I like old as its easier to.weed out the creeps tgan it is in real life lol. I live in the second biggest city in.my state and going to the bar can be a very daunting task.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

I'm not picky about first messages. Decent pics and profile are what determine whether or not I respond. Once the introduction is made then we can move onto discussion that may address something in my profile.

 

The guy I'm with now sent a simple, "Hello, how are you?" I checked out the profile, and that was good enough for me. He is an amazing man, and it's hands down the best relationship I've ever been in. If I had shunned him because he didn't try to come up with some witty or well-thought out approach, then we would have never met, and I would not be as absolutely happy as I am right now.

 

P.S. Copy and paste messages are the worst!

[MrNate 2.0]

But it's tons of women online so i never understood the profiles that say......."Read before messaging"

 

I honestly think if you can, just not do online dating at all. Think about it for a second. We're here trying to come up with the best thing to say. However, this is assuming she even reads it.

There will be loads and loads of other competing messages. If she reads one before yours that seals the deal, it's game over and on to the next one where hopefully we can get a better standing.

 

It is a catalog for women, and a crap shoot for men. You will be objectified immensely.

 

There are simply things you just can't convey online. Getting your persona across online is a big task. Some people aren't the best writers but have killer personalities.

 

I say stack the odds heavily in your favor and go approach them in real life.

Edited January 5, 2014 by MrNate 2.0