Author crackerjax9 Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 I received a text from him saying "hi" around 3pm and I didn't answer. Now he's asking if he can call me. Keep NC?
polynomial Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I received a text from him saying "hi" around 3pm and I didn't answer. Now he's asking if he can call me. Keep NC? Talk to him, maybe he wants to apologise
legion113 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I received a text from him saying "hi" around 3pm and I didn't answer. Now he's asking if he can call me. Keep NC? In your case, see what he has to say, maybe it's the apology you want. At any rate, you can set the line that he cannot cross in the future, ie disrespecting you. Up to you though whether to take him back or not. If not, well at least you know you gave it your best. If he doesn't apologize though and promise to change his ways, boot his a.s to the curb, and I mean the one 4 blocks away.
JourneyLady Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I think you are right to pass on him - an apology at this late date just means he will do it again or worse when you hit a rough patch later. You don't want that. Funny thing is, with that kind of behavior, he'll be one of those guys who puts up a profile that says he wants someone with "no drama", when he's the one who causes women heartache by doing things behind their back. 2
LornaFE Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Don't text him back. From all what you've written here I'd say he is not worth it.
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 OP - So your ex has a problem with this while drinking? Does he do this kind of stuff when he's not drinking? He should be your champion, your knight. Making a crazy symbol to his friends should have warranted a slap to the face or a kick to the balls. Seriously, that is offensive. I don't care if he's drinking. Just amplifies his true feelings. He has no RESPECT for you. His lack of apologizing just shows that he still thinks that what he has done is perfectly fine in his mind. Other than these several instances you have mentioned, how else is/was your relationship? No he does not act like this sober. He's perfect other than these situations. He'd be my dream if it weren't for these awkward situations
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WhiteTan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 No he does not act like this sober. He's perfect other than these situations. He'd be my dream if it weren't for these awkward situations Was he sober when you told him how you felt the next day and he said he didn't care? 1
rosedl Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Treating you badly on more then one occasion when he is drunk.... How much does he drink? Do you drink? Does he have issues with alcohol? It appears he is a jerk when he drinks, why would you want to be around it? He was mocking you, invalidating you, insulting you....Yeah, I think it is worthy of a break up because it speaks to larger issues. 2
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 He texted me asking to talk last night I didn't answer. Then he texted me saying he didn't want to break up bc he loves me and he thinks I still love him. He said he should have supported me and that he's an idiot. I didn't answer. 1
legion113 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 He texted me asking to talk last night I didn't answer. Then he texted me saying he didn't want to break up bc he loves me and he thinks I still love him. He said he should have supported me and that he's an idiot. I didn't answer. Well. at least it seems like the guy has thought about what he did wrong and now KNOWS what he did wrong. What's he going to do about his drinking? What you do is ultimately up to you after all
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I can't sleep so much anxiety over all of this. I am miserable.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Remember, actions speak louder than words. You say your ex was great in every other way except when drunk. Are you sure about that? You explained to him your feelings when you were both sober and he refused to apologize. Now it's taken him THIS long to say sorry? Damn pride. Pride ruins relationships. Loving couples in a healthy relationship will be quick to say sorry when they've intentionally or unintentionally hurt each other. I am a believer in 2nd chances but what will change if you two get back together? You've said that you've had these issues with him before and nothing has changed. It may be worth hearing what he has to say, but tread carefully. First, he'll have to acknowledge the issues you're having with him and then he must be willing to change. After all that, he must prove it to you with his actions. He texted me asking to talk last night I didn't answer. Then he texted me saying he didn't want to break up bc he loves me and he thinks I still love him. He said he should have supported me and that he's an idiot. I didn't answer. 1
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 You're right. I will definitely have to think about all that. He hasn't tried reaching out again since Saturday and I'm not sure if he will again but maybe I should listen to him and see what he has to say. I haven't slept in three days I'm going crazy
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Almost a week later and I still haven't received a phone call or a proper apology. I'm still so mad but this is the first time I've cried. What kind of person hurts another's feelings and then doesn't apologize to them? And to a person they claim they LOVE? Now what do I do?
fixing Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Hmmm, a week later and still no nothing? I think its time to stop 'waiting' for any apology and take the break up more seriously. Now, your serious about this. He has shown his true colours so **** him! delete off facebook, and all other devices in my opinion. 1
Million.to.1 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 He texted me asking to talk last night I didn't answer. Then he texted me saying he didn't want to break up bc he loves me and he thinks I still love him. He said he should have supported me and that he's an idiot. I didn't answer. I don't understand.... he sent you this olive branch. You ignored him. Why are you still waiting? How old are you guys? If i wanted an apology, and i received that txt, I would have replied. Even something short and simple. I don't think N/C should be used as a weapon like this. If you want a "proper" apology, ignoring his attempts at contact will not get you one. Seems like you want to stay broken up. That's the message you are giving him. You need to decide if this "break-up" was actually a break-up or just an attempt at getting what you want out of him. you are using it as manipulation and mature people don't do that. I don't break up with my BF because we disagree on the way something played out. I certainly don't ignore his attempts to reconcile after a misunderstanding.
Author crackerjax9 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Sitting here another night crying. It's been a week since we broke up. He hasn't called. Time to finally take it off Facebook?
WhiteTan Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Sitting here another night crying. It's been a week since we broke up. He hasn't called. Time to finally take it off Facebook? It was time to do that a week ago. get errr done
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