melissaxo Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Hey guys, I was dating this guy for about a year, and we broke up this summer. It was a mutual breakup, but I was still pretty devastated. We had no contact for about 3 months after breaking up. He texted me about a month ago asking how I was doing. I tried not to read too much into it, even though I was/am SO not over him. We've been speaking on and off, just casual how are you doing texts/catching up. He texted me happy new year on the 1st, and we ended up speaking almost all night. He told me he missed me, and I told him I did too. Howeverrrr it's been a day and I haven't heard from him again. I realized I want him back pretty badly, but I don't know if he's in the same boat. I kind of want to wait for him to reach out to me again, but I also am itching to tell him. I don't really know how to go about this, or if I even should. I realized he recently re-connected an old online dating profile which is making me have doubts that he might actually want me back. Help, please?! We're both in our early twenties.
winny Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 First of all.. Relax. If he is meant for you.. he will come to you. Be patient and wait for him to contact you again. If he does, then ask him whether he is talking to you as just friends or he wants to get back together. Now while you are waiting.. go over the details of why you broke up with him. And what has changed now... which would make getting back with him worthwhile.... 2
Oomlotte Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I'd wait and see if he contacts you and just take things slow - don't jump right in and say you want to get back together. In fact even if he wants to get back together take it slow and rekindle your friendship first - it will keep you level and allow you to not read too much into everything. As was stated, there's a past so you need to go into with eyes wide open and with thoughts of protecting yourself a bit.
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 The negative first - Guys sometimes want to boost their ego by knowing they are still wanted by an ex. Girls do to, so it probably evens out globally. He may have been fishing which may be why he went quiet. On the flip side - Maybe he has realised something and put a brave face on to put the feelers out and reconnect. Either way, focus on yourself and do not get lost in your memories. It is very important you do not chase; once you do that you lose power which will further enhance his ego. If it is meant to be things will work out. Do not force it as something better could definitely be around the corner.
mortensorchid Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Not over him? How come you broke up to begin with? Sometimes men/women will do this to stroke their egos a bit and see if the former flame is still wanting them. Is this why you/he is/are doing this?
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