jakeyjake Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Hey everyone, so long story short I broke up with my ex girlfriend 5 months ago, then begged for her back 1 month ago, she declined, so then I started NC from the moment she said she couldn't be with me. I live in a small city and she doesn't live far away. I first saw her (since NC) 10 days ago at a nightclub. We spoke for probably 10 minutes(she approached me) just wishing each other a merry Xmas and what our plans were. I was slightly drunk but it was all on good terms and ended with a hug saying "have a great xmas"! Since then I have been thinking about her a bit. Then today I saw her at a coffee shop and we made eye contact, smiled at each other and said hello. I then approached her and said "happy new year", how was your New Year's Eve etc? She asked the same back, then I cut the conversation short, touching her on the arm (no hug) and said "anyway, I might see you around". It felt a little more awkward today then it did 10 days ago but probably because it caught me by surprise so much.. So, basically, I want to know if what I did today was ok? Just keeping it short and friendly? Because I really have to move on and stop clinging to this hope that we are going to be together again one day.. But at the same time I don't want to be rude to her and ignore her, as it may just make things more awkward the next time I see her...? Really need some advice! I'm always thinking what she is doing and if she thinks about me? Help!
AllTooWell Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I would say you're doing great! Maintain NC through texts/fb and everything but seeing her in person it would be rude to ignore her if you guys are on good terms.
Author jakeyjake Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 Thanks for your reply! I think it's best to keep no contact! It's so hard to accept that it is over though! It seems she has moved on but I still love her and want to be with her still. I read somewhere that no girl is going to want to get back with a guy that hasn't moved on.. So I guess I just have to try and move on.. As hard as it is! I really hope I overcome this in the not too distant future! I just can't seem to attract other girls because I'm not over my ex Any advice anyone? This really hurts!
iworthmore Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 if you walking on the streets or in a night club don't seek her. i mean, if you look around don't search to find out if she's there. i'v been in the same situation. i ran into my ex many times. if you want to move on you must not say hi and approach her cuz every time you do that her reaction will take you a step back. if you see her some where don't approach her. walk and look straight. but if you run into her by quiescence u might just greet her shortly with no conversation unless she initiated 1. deep inside us we r nervous when we see our ex's but we must not show that. keep calm, act normal like she's not there. don't let her smell your stress while she's around. i can see you still want her back. if you really want to move on then don't say hi and don't approach. and u must not care abt ignoring her and if its rude. u have to be smart. ignore her but don't let her notice. its just her existence not bothering you any more.
Author jakeyjake Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Thanks for your replies guys! What happened last night it really ironic with the last reply. So last night I was out with my friends and went to a bar and got told by one if her friends that she was coming to the bar a little later on. I started to get nervous and starting stepping on egg shells. Then I thought "f*** it!". I am sick of this ruining my nights out with friends! So she finally showed up, was sitting really close to us, and I didn't look over at her once! I just continued having a good time with my friends. One of my friends told me she was looking over at me.. Even if she was, I don't care. I feel last night was a good stepping stone in regards to moving on I hope. My friend last night gave me some good advice: this is all an experience, take on board what I have learnt out if this and move on! Simple and effective.. Any thoughts?
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