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I Dumped her and I want her back but she rejected me twice

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Hey guys sorry if this is long but I will try my best to make it short

 

I ask my ex girlfriend for a break last October 8 because we both been stress lately and the distance is really killing us. We been together for 3 years. We are long distance due to our jobs being in different countries. Me(USA) Her(Germany)

 

So I thought the relationship won't really work. I told her we should focus on our jobs at the moment.. She got really hurt because me asking for a break out of no where but she agreed at the end.

 

after 3 weeks of having a break. I realize I miss her badly stupidly do all the wrong things on the book. Told her I love her! I want her back! But she's not having it, She wanted to be single and wanted to be alone.

 

so I went No contact straight away and accepted it is over.. (November-December) she keeps on contacting me.. I asked her what she wants from me. She said she thought we could be at least be friends..

 

I decline and said we both need to move on so we can't be friends right now.

she agreed but told me to contact her when I'm ready to speak to her again.

 

So yesterday I broke No contact to tell her happy new year we chat and she told me she misses me.

 

Well stupid me told her again "I want her back back in my life and if we can start all over again.. I told her I still wanna go to New york, Brazil and Greece with her."

 

But she rejected me again and she said

 

"She love to go to those places but it would be unfair as she is doing good being single and she till feels the same about everything"

 

And this is my final response to her:

 

"It's ok don't worry. I understand and respect your decision , No matter how much time goes by I'll never forget the memories we shared together. The hardest thing I will ever do is walk away and continue moving on. I want the best for you even if the best isn't me. I hope when you found someone he will always take care of you and he won't ever hurt you. Letting you go doesn't mean you don't have space here in my heart, it just means I want to see you happy because I love you. I won't bother you anymore. You always take care!"

 

I just don't know what to do anymore at this point. I am back to No contact now.. I want this person back in my life but she doesn't want me anymore.

 

So I guess it's really is over :(

pickflicker Established Member

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Yep. Nothing you can do. Sorry.

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chris21422 Established Member

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It's ok man.. Sometimes we learned from this experiences. Next time instead of breaking up with someone try your best to fix the situation before ending it. She might got really hurt and she realize having a single life is fun than having a long distance relationship and she might also realize that she doesn't want to have any relationship right now.

 

There is nothing you can do as you already did your best. Go No Contact!

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what if she contacts me again? Do I ignore it?

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what if she contacts me again? Do I ignore it?

Ignore it.

You'll feel guilty and that's not the best for you. Just learn from this, there's nothing else to be done.

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CharlieHarper91 Member

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We met here in the US.. I visit her there she visit me here and I planned on moving to germany febuary. at least that's our original plan before the break up happened..

 

 

How do you even date someone in Germany when you live in the states? That does not compute.

 

You need to move on. If you can do that and still talk to her then fine, but this isn't going ANYWHERE fast.

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Is my last response ok?

 

"It's ok don't worry. I understand and respect your decision. No matter how much time goes by I'll never forget the memories we shared together. The hardest thing I will ever do is walk away and continue moving on. I want the best for you even if the best isn't me. I hope when you found someone he will always take care of you and he won't ever hurt you. Letting you go doesn't mean you don't have space here in my heart, it just means I want to see you happy because I love you. I won't bother you anymore. You always take care!"

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Like KFC says m8. You live on different continents wtf like?

 

No more contact, you will never get over her if you keep an open OVERSEAS TELEGRAPHED dialogue.

 

Move on sir!

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Yes. that last message is fine, now no more. You gotta stay true to your word and dont message her anymore mate.

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Move on!! You can find someone better in the states! C'mon!

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Thanks man.. She is really beautiful and a wonderful person. You know those blue eyes and blonde hair.

 

Now I'm gonna regret the break up forever in my life..

 

Yes. that last message is fine, now no more. You gotta stay true to your word and dont message her anymore mate.
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Yea mate but I like the European girls.

 

Move on!! You can find someone better in the states! C'mon!
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Are you having a hard time to let go just because she is beautiful?

 

Thanks man.. She is really beautiful and a wonderful person. You know those blue eyes and blonde hair.

 

Now I'm gonna regret the break up forever in my life..

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No it's not just that.. It's just because she is a wonderful person too.

 

how do I remove putting the blame on myself guys?? I felt like I'm gonna live with this for the rest of my life.

 

 

Are you having a hard time to let go just because she is beautiful?
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Its really simple. YOU stop blaming yourself, problem solved.

 

Seriously, you will get over it, but only if you want to. Let it go.

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Thanks everyone! My last message keep on bothering me. Do you guys think it's mature enough? or is it too cheesy?

 

 

"It's ok don't worry. I understand and respect your decision. No matter how much time goes by I'll never forget the memories we shared together. The hardest thing I will ever do is walk away and continue moving on. I want the best for you even if the best isn't me. I hope when you found someone he will always take care of you and he won't ever hurt you. Letting you go doesn't mean you don't have space here in my heart, it just means I want to see you happy because I love you. I won't bother you anymore. You always take care!"

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You're message is ok leave it at be..

 

Thanks everyone! My last message keep on bothering me. Do you guys think it's mature enough? or is it too cheesy?

 

 

"It's ok don't worry. I understand and respect your decision. No matter how much time goes by I'll never forget the memories we shared together. The hardest thing I will ever do is walk away and continue moving on. I want the best for you even if the best isn't me. I hope when you found someone he will always take care of you and he won't ever hurt you. Letting you go doesn't mean you don't have space here in my heart, it just means I want to see you happy because I love you. I won't bother you anymore. You always take care!"

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She just replied to me and said this:

 

"Thank you for all u said! And for understanding! I'm really sorry to hurt you.. Anyway u don't bother me at all so u can message me whenever u want"

 

 

it's like she's the one who broke up with me and it's like all her feelings for me just died at all.. jeez that hurts :/

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