guest Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 Hi, I am in a serious relationship with my bf. I found out that he has a secret email address. Can you think why? He wants to spend every single free minute with me, he is very much in love with me and he is very nice and wonderful. I though it was extremely odd that he has this secret email address. Any of you have had this experience, if yes, why would he keep this? He already have his yahoo and work email address? why another free email?..by the way, he has made a point to keep this secret.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 Why not just ask him about it? I know you don't want him to think you are nosy, but outside of getting really technical with some 'spy on your significant other' software you aren't going to know. Just let him know that you know about it and are worried about the implications of it. He may be hiding something, or he may just not think its a big of enough deal to tell you about it. I am curious about how you know that he is making a point to keep it secret. Is anything else going on that has gotten you suspicious?
alphamale Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 why don't you open up a new secret email and send him email to his secret account and see whut happens. come off as you are some young nubile hussy that wants his bod. oh....wait....that may be entrapment forget it
Groovy Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 Why ask? Will he tell you when he obviouly doesn't want you to know. I like AlphaMales idea, have fun with a joke. I did something like that once, but with someone's screen name. He's joking but I'm not and did do that for my own reasons well worth it. But also ask yourself the worst? Say he has it to talk to other women. Does it bother you he talks to them, even sometimes flirts maybe? I wouldn't care as long as he doesn't go out with anyone. As long as he is not out at strange hours, late at work or other signs of an affair I'd consider it just a guy hanging out to a last few threads of freedom and let it be. There are "keyloggers" you can hack into the system with and tell all, passwords, e-mails, etc. But if he's computer savvy or has firewalls or Anti-Virus programs they may catch it and consider yourself out the door for good. (I've never used one but studied computer networking a while.)
nodakguy Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 I've had a couple extra email addresses at various points in the past to keep my work and personal addresses from getting spammed. (e.g. online sites that require an email address, but from whom I don't want to get any marketing crap; sites I was just generally curious about, but didn't want to get crap from; etc., etc.). You know what's funny ... when I check those accounts about every month or so (one's a Yahoo adress), they are TOTALLY full of spam. Not saying your man created this secret address for that reason, but thought I'd throw it out as a possibility. I must admit, I kinda like the idea of YOU creating one and sending one to his to see what happens. It might answer questions/fears you have without ever having to confront him about it. BUT, BUT, BUT ... since you say you're in a "serious" relationship with him, wouldn't talking to him about it be more productive in the long run? If you play the little game, it will either confirm or obviate your suspicions ... but nonetheless, you played it on him without his knowledge, and that's something you'll have to reconcile with yourself. Alternatively, if you talk to him and get an honest answer you accept (and believe) ... wouldn't that be better in the long run? All depends on where you're at with this relationship, and where you want it to, or hope it will lead.
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