MissNoname Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I asked my bf to add each other on Facebook. He said his mom and relatives are very intrusive and nosy so he would add me after I met his family. It didnt make sense to me so I told him that when we were texting. His last text was " Im trying to protect you. Im sorry it doesnt make sense to you". I did not respond to that text because first I did not know what to say and it wasnt ok with me so I couldnt say it was ok. That was on New years day when we were texting each other. I have not received a text from him since then. Should I text him since during our last conversation he was the last who texted and I did not reply to it or wait till he texts me because if I text it will appear that Im weak?
AntiSocal Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I asked my bf to add each other on Facebook. He said his mom and relatives are very intrusive and nosy so he would add me after I met his family. It didnt make sense to me so I told him that when we were texting. His last text was " Im trying to protect you. Im sorry it doesnt make sense to you". I did not respond to that text because first I did not know what to say and it wasnt ok with me so I couldnt say it was ok. That was on New years day when we were texting each other. I have not received a text from him since then. Should I text him since during our last conversation he was the last who texted and I did not reply to it or wait till he texts me because if I text it will appear that Im weak? How long have you known him? If i was you i would tell him he had two choices, add me on facebook now, or let me meet his family ASAP and then add me on facebook. That or stop talking to me. Its not normal that he doesn't want to simply add you on facebook. He doesn't have to say that he is in a relationship right away. Doesn't have to highlight your profile. But the fact that he won't even add you means hes probably hiding something. And his response is a classic player response. He basically said "get over it, i'm not changing my mind" so think about how well you REALLY know him. He probably has other girls he talks to on facebook. OR his real girlfriend is one of his facebook friends. Reevaluate the relationship. Stress the facebook point. And see how he reacts. Based on his reaction do what you feel is best.
Author MissNoname Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 How long have you known him? If i was you i would tell him he had two choices, add me on facebook now, or let me meet his family ASAP and then add me on facebook. That or stop talking to me. Its not normal that he doesn't want to simply add you on facebook. He doesn't have to say that he is in a relationship right away. Doesn't have to highlight your profile. But the fact that he won't even add you means hes probably hiding something. And his response is a classic player response. He basically said "get over it, i'm not changing my mind" so think about how well you REALLY know him. He probably has other girls he talks to on facebook. OR his real girlfriend is one of his facebook friends. Reevaluate the relationship. Stress the facebook point. And see how he reacts. Based on his reaction do what you feel is best. Dating him for almost 3 months. Officially bf/gf for about three weeks. Im thinking to not bring it up and wait till I meet his family. So far everything is progressing the way it should. Ive met all his best friends recently. We all hung out together. His friends were all nice to me and even told him that Im cool and a keeper( infront of me).
Author MissNoname Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 I dont think he has another girl. My gut feeling is not sending that message. We spent my birthday, christmas day and new years eve together. He spends his weekend and one weekday with me. Im not sure if I should text him or wait till he texts me.
AntiSocal Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I dont think he has another girl. My gut feeling is not sending that message. We spent my birthday, christmas day and new years eve together. He spends his weekend and one weekday with me. Im not sure if I should text him or wait till he texts me. You know him better than me. I'm a random guy on the internet with relationship problems. So go with your gut on this one. If you are sure that he isn't cheating and you are okay with waiting then thats fine too. Text him and say hi. Sure he misses you. And you obviously miss him too. Goodluck
Author MissNoname Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 You know him better than me. I'm a random guy on the internet with relationship problems. So go with your gut on this one. If you are sure that he isn't cheating and you are okay with waiting then thats fine too. Text him and say hi. Sure he misses you. And you obviously miss him too. Goodluck Why do you think he hasnt texted me? My friends said to text him but I have to much pride to do it. I miss him tho.
Author MissNoname Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 What do you guys think??? Thank you!
WP4046 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 How long have you known him? If i was you i would tell him he had two choices, add me on facebook now, or let me meet his family ASAP and then add me on facebook. That or stop talking to me. Its not normal that he doesn't want to simply add you on facebook. He doesn't have to say that he is in a relationship right away. Doesn't have to highlight your profile. But the fact that he won't even add you means hes probably hiding something. And his response is a classic player response. He basically said "get over it, i'm not changing my mind" so think about how well you REALLY know him. He probably has other girls he talks to on facebook. OR his real girlfriend is one of his facebook friends. Reevaluate the relationship. Stress the facebook point. And see how he reacts. Based on his reaction do what you feel is best. Why is it important for him to add her on facebook? Maybe he wants his dating life private and now on facebook?
veggirl Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Why is it important for him to add her on facebook? Maybe he wants his dating life private and now on facebook? Puhlease. You can add someone on FB & still keep your personal life private. It comes off as trying to hide her. Certainly he has other female friends on FB, so why not his GIRLFRIEND? Why does she need to be "private"? That makes NO sense.
veggirl Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 OP I'd have asked him specifically what he is worried about. What will his "intrusive" family do/ask/say? Sounds like a sh*tty excuse to me. And now he's ignored you for 2 days, but you say you spend weekends together, so what's the plan for this weekend? I guess if you want you could ask him about that but it seems like he is being childish. He probably thinks you're pissed and he just doesn't want to deal with it.
WP4046 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Puhlease. You can add someone on FB & still keep your personal life private. It comes off as trying to hide her. Certainly he has other female friends on FB, so why not his GIRLFRIEND? Why does she need to be "private"? That makes NO sense. So if i hit off with a girl and we become couple, i can't separate my social media life from my dating life???????????
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