StanMusial Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 That reply was brilliant aha! Thanks everyone guys, basically after he stood me up today, he rang me about 10 minutes ago saying he would ring me again when he wasn't driving to explain what happened today, he was crying so I'm presuming it wasn't good, but whatever I have to admit that I'm starting to see now how he's really not gonna be that great to me and unless he really pulls something out of the bag now to show me that he's brilliant or whatever then honestly he can get lost! You were all so right! And he's just proven to me that you guys are! Regardless of your respective ages, he sounds like a little bitch. Find someone else.
Bengal Tiger Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 What does he want with me? is a confidence question. Think more highly of yourself. What are your good qualities? Are you cute and fun to be with? Those are my main factors in whether I am attracted to a woman. And then do the same with his good qualities. What do you like about him? And then if you feel up to it, try it and see. It takes effort to get to know each other and build a relationship. This is true of any type of relationship. Enough people will tell you its not going to work for their own reasons, but you won't know if you don't try it for yourself. Just know some of the cautionary stuff going into it. Some people are hard-wired to automatically believe everything an older person says or naturally follows directions from an older person. I have had bad luck where the woman was much older than me and felt like they were controlling my life, and great luck when the woman was much younger than me because nobody thinks I'm controlling their life. Just some food for thought. Also with age differences, look up the campfire rule on google. The older person needs to be responsible to leave the younger person better off without emotional trauma, stds, unwanted pregnancies, etc. I had one abusive older girlfriend who failed spectacularly at this, and another one who did better and actually told me she was trying to follow the campsite rule.
Conners Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It's not too bad OP. When I was 18 I started dating a 27 year old I worked with for 1.5 years and he was madly in love with me & i'm the one who broke it off with him. Just take it slow and see how it goes, I hope it works out for you
Author Kittykat96 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Don't fall for it! A real man, if he has to cancel a date, apologizes profusely and offers to reschedule right away. He does not flake out without a word. This crying stuff shows either he is vastly immature or is part of some sick manipulation. He text me later on in the evening explaining his dad had been rushed to hospital so I don't know... This is all so bloody confusing
Author Kittykat96 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 He just want your kittykat.no wonder you choose that nickname.because you know it Bit rude considering you don't know me?
TB Rhine Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It's not too bad OP. When I was 18 I started dating a 27 year old I worked with for 1.5 years and he was madly in love with me & i'm the one who broke it off with him. Just take it slow and see how it goes, I hope it works out for you Yes, if she's lucky maybe she'll get to use some older guy up and then break his heart, as well. Feminism! Honestly though, they're right. A man over 30 has no business whatsoever consorting with a "woman" under 22 or so (and even that's pushing it). You can't possibly be in anywhere near the same place in your respective lives... he is going to be your meal ticket and you are going to be his trophy, then one of you will get tired of the arrangement and discard the other. (See post quoted above). I'd say skip it... hang out and have fun with age-appropriate guys, get your knocks and your broken hearts in, and when you've earned some hard-won life experience, start looking for your real Mr. Right. Age difference won't matter as much by that point.
ASG Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I know plenty of examples of older guys dating girls barely out of high school. A couple of friends met at Uni. She was 18, fresh out of high school. He was 30, looking for a career change. They dated for 4, maybe 5 years. She was the one who dumped him. Another friend started dating her BF when she was 20. He was 40 something. He is older than her mom. My friend is now 32. They are still together. My own mom started dating my dad at about 20. My dad is 11 years older. So, there is no easy answer. It might be just for the sex. It might not be. It could be that your maturity, paired with his lack thereof, put you on somewhat equal ground. Sure, he does have more life experience, but that is not necessarily a hinderance, since older people will always have more experience, even when you're 30 and he's 46.
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