Brolks Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Hello, it's my first time in Loveshack.org , i'm sorry if it's not the right section. We are both almost 17. Here is my story.. 6 months ago i falled in love with one girl, it was Long distance relationship, well it didn't end well, because i had hard time trusting her and was very jealous of seeing her chatting with other guys, so we started wars.. and it all ended. I was very depressed for 3 months, but then at the end of october i met another girl on skype ( I was friends with her best friend for a month , and she was very jealous of me chatting with her) . She said when she was me for the first time ( That happened in summer ) she had a crush on me since then and she was very happy to be friends with me, after a couple of days we went to meet each other.. Now what can i say about her.. she is very SHY person.. she almost doesn't talk in real life, but talks alot on sms, unless you ask her questions in real life, she has almost nothing to say.. and i'm really not used to girls like that.. i'm not much of a thinker, she is also very lovely, sweet, beautiful. After the first meet, we didn't meet until new year.. this is where my heart get's broken, we we're chatting on sms everyday about everything.. it was so fun to chat with her and i got tied to her. But when i offered to meet at new year, she accepted and was very happy, but next day after the meet.. she wrote me "I hate myself, and i didn't want this to happen, i wish i could fall in love with you.. but it won't work out" I asked why? She said she doesn't know .. she said she want's someone else.. she doesn't feel right, she said it's probably because i'm not brave enough ( i didn't talk much either i had no idea what to talk to her about, as i said she is shy ) and i need to be more positive ( Yes i had depression.. ) She said she still likes chatting with me alot and wants to be friends and still wishes that she would fall in love with me and i think i already falled in love with her.. and now i offered her this "Hey, i know you still like me, we should take 2 months break, and start again" She accepted it, but she doesn't think she will start feeling feelings for me.. she wishes she could, she cares about me alot. I promised her i would change.. and i'm honestly very lost right now.. all i do is lay in my bed and think about her , being depressed, she's my dream person.. She never had a boyfriend before, she said she would never be able to get one, unless the guy asks first. What do you people think about this? How should i treat her? What should i do to get her back? :/ I can add more information if needed. ;]
thompkevin Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Before you do anything else, start being a happy person. I think it was a smart move taking a 2 month break. But unless you don't change something in yourself in those two months, her feelings are not going to change. I know it's hard to feel better after a breakup when you feel depressed, but if you start making some positive changes in your life you will eventually start feeling better (read more about it in this article). It's easy for someone to understand whether you are happy with your life or depressed. So don't try to fake it. Work on your depression and start enjoying life. It's very attractive. And it's very easy to fall in love with a person who is having a great time living life.
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