sickoflove11 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 The break up was 6 months ago we're on good terms but we've made contact through the phone a few times and we saw each other over thanksgiving weekend… I'm quickly learning that was the dumbest thing I could have done as I am not over him. And today I just went on Facebook, something I know he doesn't go on, and what do I see, a tagged photo of him with one of his buddys but the person who tagged him was a girl that I don't know. Of course now I'm trying to find any information about this girl that I can.. seeing this really set me back. All I can think about is if they're together, what does this mean. Should I just tell myself they are together so I can move on? How can I get myself to stop thinking these things? I want to move on. I want to stop caring about what he's doing and who he's with. I try to delete and deactivate accounts but it takes me all of 2 seconds to reactivate..
rec88 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 You're struggling because it's hard! Don't worry, you're not the only one who finds it difficult. I did all that too until one day I just had enough and stopped. I wish I could say there was a trick to it, but there wasn't. It's like quitting smoking. You just have to decide to and stick to it. If you can do that, you're well on your way to healing
xMetallica Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 "Curiosity killed the cat" - Stay away from Facebook/ Social Media if there's no good coming out of it. This is coming from someone that just "had" to find out about her life and the only thing I managed to do was seeing her and her new man happy as ever. That makes me sick to my stomach with a broken heart. Not to mention a huge blow to my self-esteem. I highly suggest you don't try to find out what's going on in his life or try to find out who the girl was because you might find out some things that will only make the situation worse. You also mentioned that you wanted to move on so stick to No Contact. I'm on the same boat wishing I knew how to forget.
iworthmore Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 im on the same boat. FB killing me. the urge to check it cpl time aday not setting me free. but in the last 2 weeks i didnt check her FB at all. i still have the urge but something is helping me not to take a peek. i just remember how i felt last time i check it. the feeling was disgusting. a punch in the face. massive rocket to my self esteem. and ruined my entire week. every time i feel the urge i remember how i felt the last time. and i manage to not check it. even after xmas and new year eve i didnt check it. cuz there will be something that will make me feel bad again. so no. thanks. do correct strict NC!!!! our brain collect info from our senses. so dont let ur senses to collect any info abt ur ex until that part will fade. ur brain cells worth more than him in them. only best wishes and successful strict NC
Author sickoflove11 Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 I highly suggest you don't try to find out what's going on in his life or try to find out who the girl was because you might find out some things that will only make the situation worse. You also mentioned that you wanted to move on so stick to No Contact. I'm on the same boat wishing I knew how to forget. I think I'm searching for something that says he's moved on, or that he's no good for me anyways.. I know I am better off without him but I felt it was easier to get over an ex who cheated, than an ex who just called it quits but treated me better than any relationship i've had before.. This guy is the latter and I'm just really struggling. Thanks for the advice though and I'll do my best to stick to NC!
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