MissLY Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 How many of you are currently dating someone who can easily have any girl he wants or any man she wants? I'm dating a man right now who constantly has women coming up to him not caring that he's in a relationship. It scares me! Not that I don't trust him, I just hate that there are lonely, desperate, aggressive women out there who don't give a sh*t and will stop at nothing to get what they want when it comes to men. I live in Los Angeles and trust me, there are PLENTY of those women out here. Has anyone dealt with this type of situation before? I'd love to hear your stories.
Philosoraptor Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'm a man who has women hit on him all the time. My fiancee isn't concerned because she trusts me and knows I am committed. Likewise she has men hit on her and I don't worry. As long as you trust your partner it really doesn't matter how many people hit on them... if they're not a cheater they won't cheat. 2
GemmaUK Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'm a man who has women hit on him all the time. My fiancee isn't concerned because she trusts me and knows I am committed. Likewise she has men hit on her and I don't worry. As long as you trust your partner it really doesn't matter how many people hit on them... if they're not a cheater they won't cheat. Exactly that. And if you discover a partner to be a cheater then they aren't worth any more of your time.
Woggle Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I have noticed that there are some women that think a wedding ring is an invitation. I get more attention than I did single. I will never cheat but that is the way it is.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I had an ex-gf, an attractive latina. Men would hit on her and she would tell me about it. I already knew she had something to do with it, not just the men coming on to her, because she likes the attention, often seeking it out. After a while of hearing it, I told her she can go hook up with those men. She would playfully tell me that after hooking up with them, she would come back to me. I told her once, to not bother. Good times.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 This is because of what pick up artist call social proof. psychologist recognize it too. People tend to desire what other people already have. That applies to matterial items gold food land and mates. My mother says the best way to get called for a job interview is to already have a job. This is a part of human nature. Thankfully trust is also part of human nature you need to trust your man until he gives you a concrete reason not to.
nescafe1982 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I had an ex who cheated the very first time another woman seriously flirted with/ pursued him. I now how a spouse who has a fair number of women flirt with him (he's tall and handsome).. the biggest difference is that my current SO doesn't respond with flirtations back. That is, a woman might flirt with him, but the flirtation doesn't run both ways or go on for very long, because he shuts it down. A man who is incapable of shutting these kinds of situations down is a risk, IME. There's a delicate balance between "well no wonder the women flock to him; he's gorgeous and charming!" and "well no wonder the women flock to him; he flirts like crazy." 1
d0nnivain Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 One of my EXs was the flirtiest guy on the planet. Yet, I always knew he was coming home with me. If he didn't he knew we'd be over before he got home. My DH is gorgeous. When I 1st started dating him all of my friends & my own mother told me not to get involved because he was just too good looking. The man could be a model. He's the only one who doesn't see it. I laugh because he gets hit on constantly & has absolutely no idea. I think it's hysterical. If it gets out of control, I will rescue him. The man you are dating chose you. If he has all these options but chose you, own that & be secure in it. That will keep him where he belongs. Self confidence is sexy. 1
GoreSP Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 How many of you are currently dating someone who can easily have any girl he wants or any man she wants? I'm dating a man right now who constantly has women coming up to him not caring that he's in a relationship. It scares me! Not that I don't trust him, I just hate that there are lonely, desperate, aggressive women out there who don't give a sh*t and will stop at nothing to get what they want when it comes to men. I live in Los Angeles and trust me, there are PLENTY of those women out here. Has anyone dealt with this type of situation before? I'd love to hear your stories. What other women do is none of your concern. You can't control them. They may be tryung to break your relationship but if your boyfriend goes for it he is not a victim. He is as guilty as those women are.
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