BlametheIrish Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Dated this guy when I was 20. He was a total nerd in every sense of the word with a psycho.ex. Except she wasnt the psycho one, he was (or maybe they both were idk). He went from being a,sweet sensitive nerd to.puttibg his hands on me in about 3 months time. The first time he grabbed my shoulders and shook me while I.was sitting down, the second time he actually chocked me, but Im very strong for a woman and he was 5'8 and outta shape. I was young and dumb and told him.if he did it again I would up.and leave. Well the psycho did it again and this tine I chocked him back until.he let go. I left after being with him for 6 months (did I mention how young and dumb I was) He acted devastated and when I confronted,him on the phone again he said he never choked me just shook me. I moved on and luckily I have never dated a man like that again. Anyway this superdouche finds me on FB, my profile is private but has a pic of me. He send this: "You're aging well" I know I should probably just ignore it, but feelings came up in me I didn't realize I.still had towards him. Id like to.just burn him then block him on FB. Or have my bf message him. Id really like to see this guy get his ass beat to be honest with you. I know it spunds,really immature and its not in mu nature to act like this. But this guy treated me like crap and put his hands,on me with zero repercussions. So anger has definitely resurfaced in me. I really needed to.vent about this, more than likely i will continue to.ignore the message. Im j st all,worked up now. Need to go for a run or something, too bad its like 16degrees outside lol.
Mariposa10 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I think I understand how you feel. You feel frustrated because he never really faced the consequences of his actions. However, if you want to make him feel bad you should just ignore him. He must still be an ******* if he had the guts to even send you a message. He's not worth anything. Just block him. 1
GoreSP Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Just ignore it. Facebook now tells you when a message was read. He'll know you read the message and ignored it
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 I read the message via the drop down mail list so it was never opened. I know the scarlet letter was just a book but man Id like to take a page from that book. Like all psycho.ken mustbe adorned with a neon green P at all times. Man would that save me,a ton of time. The funny part is Ive been trying to.date nice guys my whole life. I never wanted to get with the alpha wannabees, or the rich guy or the bad boy or anything like that. I wanted a sweet dorky guy who treated me like I treated hom, with love respect and all that good stuff But many self proclaimed nice guys I've dated turned out to.be spineless, passive aggressive, selfish or lazy etc etc. Thats why In always suspicious when a guy comes on this site claiming that nice guys get no love. I always wonder how nice he really is in real life. I would have killed for a genuine nice guy in my early 20's. 1
pteromom Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Block him immediately. You already know he's unstable, so it would be unwise to engage with him in any way. 2
nescafe1982 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Ignore and block. He's trying to get you upset. Don't let him. BTW, what a presumptuous prick to assume that his approval means anything. I mean, really... who emails an ex to tell them they've "aged well"? Anyway. No response is the best response. Let him get a rise out of you, and he's won. 1
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 You're all right, I knew it but it was so tempting to.take the childish route and tell him "F off you psycho" or some well thought out yet very belligerent version of that. I did however block him and never officially read his message. Still weird how anger can resurface like that. I dont wish ill will towards anyone, even the people who ride my ass then pass me on the highway only to go ten miles an hour less than me after passing. But this guy, man if this guy got attacked by someone, Id pull up.a chair and some popcorn. Then id give the other guy the capo I.always carfy with me to.use as brass knuckles. Okay end rant lol
Mariposa10 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 You have every single right to be upset about this because he never got to pay for what he did to you. Or maybe he did, or he will. Karma's a bitch. You're all right, I knew it but it was so tempting to.take the childish route and tell him "F off you psycho" or some well thought out yet very belligerent version of that. I did however block him and never officially read his message. Still weird how anger can resurface like that. I dont wish ill will towards anyone, even the people who ride my ass then pass me on the highway only to go ten miles an hour less than me after passing. But this guy, man if this guy got attacked by someone, Id pull up.a chair and some popcorn. Then id give the other guy the capo I.always carfy with me to.use as brass knuckles. Okay end rant lol
anna121 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 A lack of response will get his goat more than anything else, so good on you. 2
Lady2163 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I know I'm nitpicking, but what kind of jerk can't say, "you look great" rather than "you're aging well". Youre good rid of him.
nescafe1982 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I know I'm nitpicking, but what kind of jerk can't say, "you look great" rather than "you're aging well". Youre good rid of him. One that's not trying to make a compliment. He's lashing out to hurt her... after all these years. What a sad soul.
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 In his f******up.mind I think.he thought he was being smooth. Or it could be the above too. Either way, what a D bag.
Eggplant Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it." -George Bernard Shaw If this guy were happy with his life, he wouldn't have any incentive to stab. Ignore the poor loser.
gaius Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I've used that line before. Unique way of giving someone a compliment. You probably would have been way less annoyed if he wasn't so unapoligetic about his previous bad behavior.
bene Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I've used that line before. Unique way of giving someone a compliment. You probably would have been way less annoyed if he wasn't so unapoligetic about his previous bad behavior. Just my two cents but to me it sounds like a backhanded compliment. It would be OK among good friends in a teasing manner but in any other case there is no need to bring age into the equation when complimenting a woman. It will come across as "you're old BUT you're still beautiful". If you genuinely want to say someone looks nice, why not just say exactly that.
gaius Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Just my two cents but to me it sounds like a backhanded compliment. It would be OK among good friends in a teasing manner but in any other case there is no need to bring age into the equation when complimenting a woman. It will come across as "you're old BUT you're still beautiful". If you genuinely want to say someone looks nice, why not just say exactly that. When you add in the aging part you bring in a bit of a teasing dynamic which is more likely to get a reaction from most women. Which is probably what he wanted in the first place. Most women get bombarded with compliments like you look beautiful so they don't mean much to most of them. Most comments are judged by the energy behind them anyway. I was watching george carlins epic comparison of baseball and the football the other day and realized it would have barely scratched the surface of funny without the special energy of his performance. I'm sure the fact Irish's guy added the energy of an unapologetic beater to his performance only added to her angst.
Eggplant Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 You know, you could just say "Thanks." That shows that you didn't think twice about it, and he failed to get a reaction. On the plus side, you probably look as beautiful as you ever looked, and he just noticed that you hadn't changed in 10 years and after having kids. Not all women are so lucky.
Author BlametheIrish Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 D I've used that line before. Unique way of giving someone a compliment. You probably would have been way less annoyed if he wasn't so unapoligetic about his previous bad behavior. I'd still be annoyed as I know this guy hasn't changed. Just Last year I.randomly.found him on an OLD site and the crap in his profile was unreal. To say the man was dillusional is an understatement. He needs serious therapy, hell I couldaused some after breaking up with him lol. Anyway It was nice to get the anger and .resentment out online, thanks for listening everyone 1
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