apetoape Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 This is kind of stupid but any help would be appreciated. Been dating this girl for a few months. We're not official yet but its getting thereish. So here's the story, I gave her a cute little doll for Xmas and she loved it. She started referring to it as her new man (inside joke). She sent me a pic of her and her friend in bed kissing it and I replied back with : "Not the first pic I've seen of him in bed with girls on each side, don't fall in love with him. Have you?" Sounded harmless to me, but she hasn't responded to me in 2 days, which is very unlike her (she usually texts me everyday). I don't want to make it seem like a big deal but now that I've reread the text, it could sort of be misinterpreted as: " I've given that doll to other girls and have received the same type of pics from them". Does my joke not warrant a response? Is she mad/jealous? Am i over analyzing? Given the time we've spent together, she should know I'm pretty sarcastic and always joking around.
winny Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Over thinking. Call her up or send another text. 4
MidwestUSA Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 If she took it that way, she's overthinking too. Text her, let her know the little guy was a virgin, and hope he hasn't been traumatized by the threesome. 8
Frank2thepoint Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Kick her door down and take back the doll. Or don't over think your text message, still kick her door down, and make sweet love to her, while the doll watches. Moral of the story, work on the delivery of your jokes via text.
Versacehottie Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I hope neither of you are overthinking it. In the meantime, since you made the joke, call her, get in touch and fix it. You don't even necessarily need to bring it up and make a big deal about it. My guess is you will know if something's up as soon as you hear the tone in her voice. If she sounds mad, then just explain yourself. If she's totally unforgiving it would also be good to know that before you get in deeper. It would suck if you miss out on a good relationship because of a joke gone wrong. Couples have misunderstanding and arguments. How they fight and handle them is the key. Good luck.
Eggplant Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Texting is a horrible means of communication for this reason.
d0nnivain Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Call her. However, if she knows you have given the same doll to other women & they sent you the same pictures, THAT is probably why she's mad. You just proved that she wasn't special to you. Do you get that?
veggirl Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Awkward. Forget you ever said it and ask her out. Don't bring it up, at all.
isisisweeping Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 That joke was funny. I think you're overthinking. Text or call her. I can't imagine taking it that other way, and if she did, surely she'd ask about it.
Author apetoape Posted January 4, 2014 Author Posted January 4, 2014 She didn't pick up when I called so i followed up with a text. I said that I wanted to see her, and if I can come over later. No response, its been 6 hrs. Guess she was mad. Ball's in her court but seeing her like this is turning me off.
winny Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 She didn't pick up when I called so i followed up with a text. I said that I wanted to see her, and if I can come over later. No response, its been 6 hrs. Guess she was mad. Ball's in her court but seeing her like this is turning me off. Are you sure there is nothing else going on here? Like another guy? That joke is pretty harmless frankly.... I wouldn't give it a second thought myself... Don't do anything else... she will get back to you if she wants to...
amaysngrace Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 That was a stupid thing to say. You took all the specialness out of her present you bought her :/ Text her and tell her you were just joking and that you're sorry and call her out on her bitchiness of ignoring you. then the ball's in her court....right now it's not though, just a whole lot of miscommunication. 2
EmilyJane Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Awkward. Forget you ever said it and ask her out. Don't bring it up, at all. Yep! This!
almond Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I would have a hard time dating someone that had no sense of humor. The joke was nothing - she seems very sensitive. If she got the wrong impression, she should have spoken to you about it. Ignoring you for days is juvenile and counterproductive. Call her and find out what's up. If she says it pissed her off, advise her that it was a joke, perhaps apologise for not wording it better (if her complaint/misinterpretation was reasonable), and then advise her that you would appreciate honest communication as opposed to sulking and ignoring next time. Tell her that you believe in working through issues and clearing up misunderstandings as adults, and that you expect the same in return. 1
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