iworthmore Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 i'v been on LS for 1 month so far. what i believe that stories here r all real from our reality. no fake scenarios regardless of the type of the sub forum. i was comparing my experience to other posters in this board and started to think that my situation is bad. i had very brief RS ( less than 8 months). i was a rebound ( she left her ex for me and i didn't know about that ). and most likely (not 100% sure) i was left for someone else. during the RS we had multiple breakups. lots of mixed signals that drove me crazy and lots of lies and toxic behaviour. i am certain that i didn't put much influence on her. until this moment i am not sure if she ever loved me despite she told me that 100's of times. she begged me back several times but after that she always ended things. i have lots of questions in my head. i think having an answer can help me move on faster. cuz im spending my days thinking of answers. ill save the long story and just ask them. 1. why is this brief RS affecting me so bad? ( she's my first love so first BU) 2. is it true that people who have faced multiple BU's can move on faster? ( she had 3 ex's before) 3.she was acting like a bipolar towards me for months. why the hell this happened? how can a woman say she love someone, kiss him and inside her she's not? i thought women cant lie in such situations. and one last question: can i ever trust a woman when she tells me she loves me? you all know that in some stories such thing happened. right now talkig about your future kids. and tomorrow BU thru FB message and they disappear. i wont lie that i miss her so much. part of me want her back but im holding on NC. almost 3 months of total NC. no urge to contact her at all. but my mind busy with unanswered questions. little help will be so appreciated best wishes from london
Omei Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Answers... 1. First relationship breakup always feel the -worst- because it is your first you have no other breakups to compare it too, and it's very likely you will have deeper loves look back on this one and giggle at how fleeting it was. 2. I would say it's a myth different relationships are all so different from each other with different people it can be long, short, easy or painful it just depends but it is easier for the dumper because when they leave someone most of the time they're ready to move on while we are not. 3. She may have felt or decided it was over but didn't follow through until the breakup, may of created situations to be difficult who knows. And a woman can lie in any situation just the same as a man could not sure what you ment by that. 4. Yes you will be able to believe "I love you" is just a set of words meshed together it doesn't really mean anything when you say it to someone unless you also put your love into action, the saying actions are louder than words is very true when you are in love again with a girl that's not constantly breaking up with you and being toxic in a relationship and things are good and you're happy you will believe her.
Author iworthmore Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 Answers... 3. She may have felt or decided it was over but didn't follow through until the breakup, may of created situations to be difficult who knows. And a woman can lie in any situation just the same as a man could not sure what you ment by that. . hey Omei and thank you for your answer. since being a child i was hearing and reading quotes about how sentimental women are. how emotional creatures comparing to men. i thought that men are more likely to breakup and end RS's. however, i read many stories on LS and i find that most dumpers r females. u can check that and ull see. i was raised to believe that women more emotional and appreciate that word. apparently it was all bull****. im not generalizing . im wise enough to prevent any experience to make me do such thing. was just wondering and trying to figure out what happened. now i realize that saying that word is meaningless. like u said. it must be translated to actions. and that's a lesson to take to my future RS.
Omei Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I am glad I can help you with that part. To me the word I love you has significant meaning but its built in my personality there are types of girls out the more willing to throw it out there to get what they want. Since it obviously has great meaning to you, I am sure that the next girl you find in life will meet that same meaning as you. I too learned I love you doesn't mean it's true in my first relationship.
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