Question to MMs, could you answer. Why any men would do this?

[nicepuzzle]

I agree with that, but why would he would he be so emotional when sees me? He got so emotional and made me emotional and after sex made a distance and than same. He said he controlled emotions. Cakeeater and he thinks he can get away with it.

[stillafool]

Thats pathetic. I am still close to his friends. Do I need to block everyone?

 

Yes and everyone connected with him because you do not need to hear anything about him. Now that his wife knows you have gotten your revenge. You need to get over this guy so you don't spend another 6 years of your life this way.

[nicepuzzle]

stillafool: Thats what I am planning on doing. I have removed myself from his life and now 20% more to go. Ia m getting over with his family now. Lol. I have already dumped him and no need to see anything from him.

[wannabdone]

Sadly, I only know this - - because my xMM did this to me. He had it perfectly lined up. I looked like a stalker.

 

 

And even sadder than that, his BS believed him. Just remember, people only

believe what they want - - if that wasn't the case, none of us would probably be here on this site.

[Realist3]

1. He always called me same day to see me and kept NC in between

2. Never said when he was seeing me next

3. Never took me for dinner date

4. Minimal text. Only reply when I texted or emailed. Never initiated.

5. Never wished Christmas, birthdays or holiday s

6. Distanced himself when I got emotional and asked questions without explaination.

8. Last one to call when I had a death in family. He was the first one I called

9. When I called, kept conversation short and to the point

10. Had rumors with coworkers and secretaries.

11. Made me close to everyone in the family including wife. A family friend

 

However, when came to see me, held me for hours being emotional and teary...and the only person who ever loved me was him.

 

I walked away, moved on with my life on good terms. Did NC success fully for 6 years and he came back.

 

1. See in hotel rooms once in a while.

2. NC in between.

3. Minimal contacts through twxts and email and only when we meet.

4. Cry and emotional and declare love and intensity when we meet and all the rules above.

5. When I questioned his love and other women, no explanation and go NC again...

 

All you MM out there...what do u think he was doing? I havw finished with him for good and taught him a good lesson. But was he a crazy person or way too smart. And yes I fell in love with him since when he was with me, I never experienced such intensity of emotions.

 

I am NC for 9 months and doing very well but sometimes I get mixed emotions and question a lot of things. I never wanted tbe A but when he implied that his wife cheated and bore a child from her lover, my heart went out for him. He said he is there with her for children and was sacrificing and had 2 more kids from him while continuing cheating and saying he feels guilty.

 

 

Almost speechless. I can't believe anyone would put up with this.

[nicepuzzle]

Almost speechless. I can't believe anyone would put up with this.

 

I questioned this over and over again. The reason I stayed with him and even went back since when he was with me it was magical. So much of love that I couldn't handle it and didnt need feel the need to ask if he loved me. He made me feel like no other guy ever did. And I would go all the way to have sex but he would still come to see me just to make out. He didnt break his rules and I didnt break mine to do intercourse.

[nicepuzzle]

Sadly, I only know this - - because my xMM did this to me. He had it perfectly lined up. I looked like a stalker.

 

 

And even sadder than that, his BS believed him. Just remember, people only

believe what they want - - if that wasn't the case, none of us would probably be here on this site.

 

I read your other post and wonder if we had the same man. Mine went for 6 years like that..

[Aspasia33]

It doeskin matter wether hes married or single...that is ****ty behavoiur.

 

 

Almost speechless. I can't believe anyone would put up with this.

[emotionlessbutalive]

It doeskin matter wether hes married or single...that is ****ty behavoiur.

 

Exactly...what makes me surprised is that he comes back to repeat the same. It has nothing to do with his being married. He was playing within in a set of rules that he set up for OW. Looks like a VERY experienced man and knew what he was doing and was following a practical handbook to have affairs. If he loved her, he wouldn't leave her second time and will try to keep her. Its like well u still don't follow my rules so NC. She dud the right thing telling his wife. She had to protect herself and why its her who should try to heal after a non explainable NC from him?

[krazikat]

I agree with that, but why would he would he be so emotional when sees me? He got so emotional and made me emotional and after sex made a distance and than same. He said he controlled emotions. Cakeeater and he thinks he can get away with it.

 

Typically womanizers are pretty good at getting what the want from woman...they have alot of experience. Looks like it worked with you.

[Aspasia33]

Unfortunately...I have to agree with this...I think he is one of the few rare players around:(

 

Typically womanizers are pretty good at getting what the want from woman...they have alot of experience. Looks like it worked with you.