MissBee Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) I think that's just an excuse that is being used. In reality, adultery = chance it can be hidden, but divorce = impossible to hide. Pretty much! I do not think religious men who are cheating are concerned about "sin" in an abstract or theological way . They are concerned with other people seeing their sin/shortcoming and judging them for it i,.e. public perception, the perception of their friends, family, church, coworkers and not "God's opinion" . It makes sense what you said. Divorce will be public and if divorce is wrong in your religion, it's something everyone will see and will judge or comment on. Whereas, adultery is kept a secret as much as possible and is free from the scrutiny of your fellow human beings - until it isn't. Edited January 9, 2014 by MissBee 1
Author Lady2163 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Could you please start a new topic? This is for people to update.
ladydesigner Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Does anyone ever belong to anyone??? I know there are promises that cannot be kept say after 25years after getting married too young. How can you ever say you ever own someone?? Belong to someone for life??? Isn't that rather dated seeing as people are living much longer now. I think we all know we don't own the other person. It is deceit and lying that tears relationships down. Just because people are living longer does not give them the right to lie to another person about the truth of the relationship, whether it is OW or BS. 1
krazikat Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Makes me laugh when certain folk answer others' posts for them like they were them?? She simply reposted what had been written...what about that makes you laugh? 1
krazikat Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 No one has the right to lie to someone of course. No one has the right to deceive someone of course. No one is arguing that. But the fact is that people are living longer and things never stay the same. Sorry what was the question, oh yes ... to OW WHERE ARE YOU IN THE RELATIONSHIP??? Well i love him, he loves me, and we are in deep sh......... because he is staying where he is and believe me, he is miserable and so am I. And because the sh..... hit the fan for the second time, I am guessing so is BS Why does he stay then? Why do you stay? Why are you still in a place of misery in your relationship?
GatsbyMH Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 I'm the Other Man now. I used to be a WS but now I'm divorced and single. Her marriage has nearly bit the dust a few times but she hangs on to be with her kids. She says she doesn't love him but is scared to death to leave and only have shared visitation. It's just not something she wants to face yet. It's been a very strange transition from being a married wandering spouse to a single other man. I get very jealous now of her husband when before it didn't used to bother me as much. No end in sight presently but she's very careless and I'm sure he's suspicious. Bound to get caught eventually...
SugarHibiscus Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I am the MOW contemplating the decision of NC or divorce. It's a leap of faith either way.
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