365daysgone Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 So if you were goin on dates with someone - not necessarily committed yet - how long would you stick around without any sex? Only girls answer please.
CrystalCastles Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'm one to like going slow. So I'd be willing to abstain from sex maybe 4, 5, 6 months? It would be difficult (I personally have a high sex drive) but anything for the man I love! 1
AntiSocal Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Lol. You want to cement your PE gains before you let her see your willy bro? Every girl is different. Some girls are very sexual and will throw themselves at you literally, and they will dump you if you aren't willing to smash. Other girls are more reserved. They'll probably wait for you to make the first move BUT if you take to long they will assume that you don't find them attractive and/or you're a wimp and they will dump you. Actually seen this happen to one of my friends. And some girls will be willing to wait months. Communication is key. If you know the girl well enough to put your willy in her, then you know her well enough to talk about a time frame for when to do it. 2
HorseLuck Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I agree with AntiSocal. I would be fine with waiting but would appreciate if the guy was direct with the matter, that way I'm not drawing my own conclusions.
married2school Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'm cool with waiting however long we both mutually decide on. I'd say 6 months tops, but the difficulty would depend on the sexual chemistry. But I think it's something that should be discussed, and I most definitely appreciate it when a guy is willing to have that discussion.
pickflicker Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Wow, 6 months? 3 months, max. Even then, it's pushing it.
Els Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 So if you were goin on dates with someone - not necessarily committed yet - how long would you stick around without any sex? Only girls answer please. If not committed yet, I'd want to wait til we were actually committed. If it was taking 6 months and we STILL weren't committed, I'd probably leave due to the lack of commitment. If we were committed, I'd be happy to wait a few months from then onwards for sexual activity. Adding that together, the upper limit seems to be 8 months or thereabouts. I've never had to wait that long, though. The guys I've been with seem to have always been eager to accept the initial invitation... 4
married2school Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 If not committed yet, I'd want to wait til we were actually committed. If it was taking 6 months and we STILL weren't committed, I'd probably leave due to the lack of commitment. If we were committed, I'd be happy to wait a few months from then onwards for sexual activity. Adding that together, the upper limit seems to be 8 months or thereabouts. I've never had to wait that long, though. The guys I've been with seem to have always been eager to accept the initial invitation... This. I didn't get the wording of the original post until now. I definitely would prefer to only have it in a committed relationship.
BikerAccnt Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 LOL, sorry I can't resist answering this and I['m a guy.. My EX-wife was willing to wait 7 years. Me, I got tired of waiting.
youdunsay Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 till marriage. so long as relationship is going strong (chemistry, common goals) and genuine. 1
Emilia Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 So if you were goin on dates with someone - not necessarily committed yet - how long would you stick around without any sex? Only girls answer please. It depends on how often I saw him and how we were progressing. Probably a month max. I find sex brings out the emotional side in people, regardless whether male or female, it's a good indicator of their ability to deal with intimacy. I don't want to invest in someone that much necessarily only to find out they have major issues in that area or that we are incompatible. 2
Allumere Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Would depend on the driver I guess. If he were Christian or a religion that preaches no sex before marriage I would be fine with although technically a Christian should only be dating another Christian. Otherwise I'd say 6 months.
GoreSP Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I tend to go with the flow...so I rarely wait very long . Then again, I never believed my vagina was a special gift that should be 'saved' for only one person.
BlametheIrish Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Wow, 6 months? 3 months, max. Even then, it's pushing it. This Id wait longer if he was a virgin or had some medical issue he was getting over or something like that. Id be very concerned he had a lw srx drive if he wanted to.wait though. And that would be a deal breaker for sure.
Eau Claire Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 There are a lot of variables. I would prefer to know a man about 3 months before sleeping with him. I like to start slow...see each other once or twice a week. Dates that feel 'special'...like going for a hike and picnic, to a play, etc. It's normal for a healthy male to want to get into your pants before then, but a guy will be respectful and wait if he is really serious. After 3 months or so, I'd keep waiting depending on the situation. If we weren't a couple by then or he wasn't completely committed, definitely longer. I love sex. Can't get enough of it when I'm in love. However, no interest in it otherwise. I come almost as easily by my guy whispering in my ear he loves me than any physical act.
Lady2163 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'd want a comitment before sex. I'm in my 40s and financially stable. If we see each other 2-4 times a week and after 6 weeks, discussion of a weekend away hasn't happened (which leads to the comitment discussion) I'd probably throw in the towel. So...12 - 24 interactions together 1
Kate9292 Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 As long as you want. But expect me to get some on the side if we aren't committed 1
Sand Man Dan Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 As long as you want. But expect me to get some on the side if we aren't committed Aaaaand the thread swerves.
Thegreatestthing Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) 2 dates max,but sex is a huge part of uniting for me,I just don't believe that I need to pretend that I don't want sex. Maybe guys aren't as bad as we all thought,this is happening to me ATM,I was just talking to this guy who I liked and wanted to date, but I'm kind of not ready to be in a relationship ,so I was talking all threesomes and sexual with him and first he's ok with it,then he changes the subject and starts saying how he wants a committed relationship with a woman he gets along with. The same thing happened to me yesterday I started talking about cucumbers and s and m ,and he Just changes the subject and wants to talk about my art. Why don't you want to have sex with her,what is happening??? Is the universe titling this is all very weird. So if you were goin on dates with someone - not necessarily committed yet - how long would you stick around without any sex? Only girls answer please. Edited January 5, 2014 by Thegreatestthing
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Maybe three or four months perhaps, max. Sexual chemistry is a very important part of figuring out if you're compatible or not and I don't want to waste either of our time dating if it isn't going anywhere, there's a danger that four months down the line we have sex and it's TERRIBLE; I don't mean just average compared to amazing sex, but terrible with zero passion or chemistry. I have had that happen before with someone that thankfully was only a friend not a potential partner, and it never got any better despite our best efforts. Maybe I'd be happy to go on dates and stuff casually for longer but I'll sure be having sex elsewhere! 1
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